OverThinker72 Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 I posted on here recently about my ex sending me texts and calling me, leading to a 3 hour conversation. I felt so strong after the call ended, like I was finally coming to a point of not giving a feck, but here I am very confused. I'm not hurting but angry and then completely numb. It goes back and forth it's driving me crazy!!!! I stick to NOT wanting him back. Like I've said before I never have and never will get back with an ex. But what if this time I'm making a mistake? I've never fought when a relationship is over but now I'm scared that I'm too comfortable with my own rules. Many of my friends and family say I am almost cold when it comes to fighting for love. I just let go and try to move on. I never look back. But this break up is driving me nuts. I'm 41 and this has never ever happened to me before. Is it an age thing? Any input or advice would be most welcome. Thank you Hugs from a very sunny London xx
todreaminblue Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 I dont know if its an age thing i have always been one to let go and dont go back...since i was young........so not sure about the age ....i feel you should do what is in your heart to do........what you feel most strongly about.....did he apologise try and fix things and you care deeply for him...try again... i dont think there are any set rules to love there is what you have done before and what you might do in the future that will be totally different....theres no miracle book to tell you how to do your unique love life properly......smilin...the bible maybe....do un to others .....love one another.....i dont know that's the best i got..:bunny::bunny: i have rabbits though.......i wish you much luck ....in love and life... you never know...it depends on you.........deb
PR08 Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 Don't worry about it, it's just chemical. Stick with it!
Author OverThinker72 Posted September 17, 2013 Author Posted September 17, 2013 I dont know if its an age thing i have always been one to let go and dont go back...since i was young........so not sure about the age ....i feel you should do what is in your heart to do........what you feel most strongly about.....did he apologise try and fix things and you care deeply for him...try again... i dont think there are any set rules to love there is what you have done before and what you might do in the future that will be totally different....theres no miracle book to tell you how to do your unique love life properly......smilin...the bible maybe....do un to others .....love one another.....i dont know that's the best i got..:bunny::bunny: i have rabbits though.......i wish you much luck ....in love and life... you never know...it depends on you.........deb Thanks deb I like rabbits too!!! lol. I think something shifted inside of me with this break up which will make me view future relationships differently. I think I'm experiencing a softer side in me which is scary but cool
Author OverThinker72 Posted September 17, 2013 Author Posted September 17, 2013 Don't worry about it, it's just chemical. Stick with it! Sticking with it PRO8
Babolat Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 I posted on here recently about my ex sending me texts and calling me, leading to a 3 hour conversation. I felt so strong after the call ended, like I was finally coming to a point of not giving a feck, but here I am very confused. I'm not hurting but angry and then completely numb. It goes back and forth it's driving me crazy!!!! I stick to NOT wanting him back. Like I've said before I never have and never will get back with an ex. But what if this time I'm making a mistake? I've never fought when a relationship is over but now I'm scared that I'm too comfortable with my own rules. Many of my friends and family say I am almost cold when it comes to fighting for love. I just let go and try to move on. I never look back. But this break up is driving me nuts. I'm 41 and this has never ever happened to me before. Is it an age thing? Any input or advice would be most welcome. Thank you Hugs from a very sunny London xx Yopu seem normal, healthy, stable and strong to me. I on the other hand, even being the dumper, kept letting the ex "back in" for short periods of time; something I have never done. Going as close to full NC now as feels appropritate (we have never fought or got mad at each other, an amicable break up with lots of good communication), and it's helping a lot.
Angry bird Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 You still love him...He still loves you. But your fear ad his will not allow you the freedom to love without expectations and conditions. Just my thoughts
Chi townD Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 Sunny and London. That is a complete oxymoron! 1
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