being forward and telling someone nothing serious

[charlietheginger]

Im going on 37 yrs old been divorced 2yrs had one short relationship. I really dont care to date im buzy with work and saving money for a home downpayment.

Dating will only take money away from my goal. im lean and mean saving every penny

i eat at home and just use redbox for movie.

 

Here is the situation im a nice guy polite i open doors sometimes get into small chitchaat sitting next to someone in a public place. My intentions are not sexual. Ive probably

had sex over 3,000 times in the last 14 yrs with my ex wife of 10 and gf of 4 yrs.

im not in the mood for a relationship. Im not a player so i tell women upfront

im divorced never gonna remarry or live with anyone. I dont go out much im saving for

a home downpayment. They look mad upset even put their hands on their hips...

 

So basically im buzy right now BUT IF A WOMEN ask if im single do i say yes

take them out spend money have sex just to make them happy so they dont feel rejected?

 

A women kinda persued me at the gym we befriended each other

she let me know she was interested and after a few conversations she still

didnt get it that im not in a position to date id rather save money

for a home. She even asked what about sex. I told her women often

use sex to manipulate men into relationships and im not really able

to focus on a relationship im working 55 60hrs a week and

dont have time.

 

i think she felt rejected. Its not her i just dont have time for games , run around and drama.

[phineas]

You need to learn how to keep them at a distance after you sleep with them.

Let them try to sex you into a relationship.

 

Use google voice.

When they realize you were truthful about not wanting a relationship & start bugging out you just log on & block them.

 

Over & done with.

 

Otherwise, tell them you are gay.

[StanMusial]

Stick to your guns until you can find one who will support you in what you're trying to do. Its tough but not impossible. Its getting harder and harder to find the ones who fit the bill.