sjm Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 It's been 3 months now. What I miss the most is having my bestfriend. Lifes great for me, but in those successful moments there's always that thought that cross' my mind. "I wish he could be here to see this" Is this normal..? What does this mean.. I know most people are angry and emotional and what not but I guess all that is passed for me. 2
Chris715 Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 Completely normal. I have those moments all the time thinking about my ex girlfriend, and we've been broken up for 10 months now. Like you said with your fiance, she really was my best friend, and having them out of your life after all of that is one of the hardest things about the break up. To both of us, stay strong 1
hurts2death Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 i feel that too. i guess cause we have more heart maybe? maybe thats how dumpees feel? i hope we make it -john
keepontruckin Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 Trust me, the dumpers typically don't care, and can move on at a moments notice. That is the real "them" you are seeing, and they will continue this behaviour for the rest of their lives... 3
keepontruckin Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 They typically have no integrity nor morals, and only look at life as to what they can get out of it, instead of what they can put into in... And when they want something, they can be oh-so-friendly... When they have used you up, they just move on. It is a character trait, and you cannot fix that. Trust me... Serial dumpers all eventually get what they deserve in the end... They never fulfill their quest in knowing what they're looking for, since they don't know what they're looking for! They just keep running, and running. Typically they die lonely and alone... 3
hurts2death Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 my friend you couldnt explain it better.... respect and rep from john They typically have no integrity nor morals, and only look at life as to what they can get out of it, instead of what they can put into in... And when they want something, they can be oh-so-friendly... When they have used you up, they just move on. It is a character trait, and you cannot fix that. Trust me... Serial dumpers all eventually get what they deserve in the end... They never fulfill their quest in knowing what they're looking for, since they don't know what they're looking for! They just keep running, and running. Typically they die lonely and alone...
hurts2death Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 this plus if they IF IF IF IF and EVENTUALY find what they want it will be a temporal need coverage until they will want sth else.... those people should be tought ethics and morals at school .. i mean if we only had an ethics police tha jails would have been full. and again please all. i am open minded to come up with the typical thing. blah blah nobody is bad cause he left us. when someone accepts your hole existance for years .carreer soul self literaly all they have responsibility of this human capital and we deserve as humas at least second try before we shoot the bank in the air.... They typically have no integrity nor morals, and only look at life as to what they can get out of it, instead of what they can put into in... And when they want something, they can be oh-so-friendly... When they have used you up, they just move on. It is a character trait, and you cannot fix that. Trust me... Serial dumpers all eventually get what they deserve in the end... They never fulfill their quest in knowing what they're looking for, since they don't know what they're looking for! They just keep running, and running. Typically they die lonely and alone...
Author sjm Posted September 17, 2013 Author Posted September 17, 2013 Dumper here, I'm evil. Hey MontyCarlo. I just wanted to say that I don't believe you are evil. I just read your posts and I couldn't help but get watery eyes! I understand why my fiance had to do what he had to do, I wish it were different, I wish it all worked out but that doesn't change the fact that it didn't feel right for him and at the end of the day he has to do what is right by him. It was very hard for me at the start, I felt blind sided and then ignored and insignificant. After some time alone to think I stopped thinking of my pain and started to recognize his too. I am sorry that you are stuck in this place where you love her but can't be with her. I hope things get much easier for you both.
Author sjm Posted September 17, 2013 Author Posted September 17, 2013 Completely normal. I have those moments all the time thinking about my ex girlfriend, and we've been broken up for 10 months now. Like you said with your fiance, she really was my best friend, and having them out of your life after all of that is one of the hardest things about the break up. To both of us, stay strong Thanks Chris! People sit there and think of their ex's in times of distress and play the whole emotional blackmail, pity game but I genuinely just wish he was there to celebrate with and talk too. I hope your okay
melell Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 Yeah I am pretty sure that just because someone dumped us, it doesn't mean they will die alone or live horrible lives or use people. It doesn't even mean they used us. All it means is that they felt differently and walked away. 1
Chris715 Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 Thanks Chris! People sit there and think of their ex's in times of distress and play the whole emotional blackmail, pity game but I genuinely just wish he was there to celebrate with and talk too. I hope your okay Thanks And I've definitely been guilty of emotional blackmail and pity games but yeah, I've also kind of reached the point where I just wish she was there for me still, and to be able to share all those little moments in my day that used to make her laugh when I would tell her about them. It's funny, those little random moments seem to be what I remember the most after she's gone... Weird how our brains work.
hurts2death Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 no you just look evil. the truth is you are irresponisble...and way irresponsible...empty and dont know what you want... all these aint bad ofcourse... but just think, did you fight enough to save the rl? i think not. cause when you feel it fully you give it all and never let go (at least at acase where your other half wants to continue) and as a result yes you turned your back to a human that needed you and loved you....cause deeply you thought you will be better without her?aint that selfcenterous?lol cheers dumper. in the long run you will be devastated by your choices not by your ex rl. we here for you -johnDumper here, I'm evil.
hurts2death Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 melell think again .. nobody gave the a curse but if it happens 3 times it will keep happening and with more ease ..trust me...Yeah I am pretty sure that just because someone dumped us, it doesn't mean they will die alone or live horrible lives or use people. It doesn't even mean they used us. All it means is that they felt differently and walked away.
Author sjm Posted September 17, 2013 Author Posted September 17, 2013 Thanks And I've definitely been guilty of emotional blackmail and pity games but yeah, I've also kind of reached the point where I just wish she was there for me still, and to be able to share all those little moments in my day that used to make her laugh when I would tell her about them. It's funny, those little random moments seem to be what I remember the most after she's gone... Weird how our brains work. Wow it seems we are in the same situation! I've been guilty of playing the pity card too but I think that's just a natural reaction to a situation like this. I know my ex played the pity card alot in our relationship, I think it's just the normal thing people do when they feel hurt/hard done by. At least we know our hearts are in the right place by being able to let go of all that anger. We live and we learn.. 1
keepontruckin Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 Trust me. Whom you think cares, will dispose of you in a second. Let me tell you a little story... I met my soon to be ex in an old folks home. She was a care aid there, while my Grandmother lived there in the end... I visited that facility every day, to visit my Grandmother. Every day until she died. She raised me, so that was the least I could do. Almost none of the residents had visitors. None of them. And they were Doctors, Lawyers, High School principals, Nurses, etc... They were forgotten...
keepontruckin Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 Once they have no other use for you, you are tossed.
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