Should I bother trying to reach out to a friend who is acting odd seeing me emotional

[SubliminalSessions]

So...about a week or so ago, I had shown a very emotional side of me to a friend after finding out someone I met a couple times was with someone else. Pretty much cried myself to sleep at my friend's place. He actually seen me like this on 2 occasions in less than a 1 week period. I know it was alot to handle, but as I explained to him it seemed to be so going on the right track, and it went wayward, right after meeting my date's family.

 

Well, seems like after that...he's not answered any of my phone calls, just been talking to me through texts....and being vague but not making any plans like we normally do. We usually hang out all the time. I told him I apologized for going all out and that I am doing what I can to move on. He just responded that he was stressed and apologized for acting weird.

 

I've tried reaching out to him more, but he's acting very strange. I don't want to keep running him down either. He mentioned to me he got fired from 1 of his jobs, and he got rid of had another rooommate move in. But, I doubt that's the reason for it. I almost want to just come straight out and ask if we're not cool anymore, or if he's just taking time out from me lol.

 

If it is over, I won't die from it. He's a good guy to hangout with, but he seems to have an insatiable appetite to simply have casual hookups, and I've seen him very messy in his relationships/flings. I wouldn't trust him around anyone I'm dating. He also had a 'thing' for me at one point in time, but we ended up just being friends (i rejected his advance). I almost wonder if now he's feeling jealous or wondering how the hell I could cry over 1 guy and not him???

Edited September 16, 2013 by SubliminalSessions

[CC12]

So...about a week or so ago, I had shown a very emotional side of me to a friend after finding out someone I met a couple times was with someone else. Pretty much cried myself to sleep at my friend's place. He actually seen me like this on 2 occasions in less than a 1 week period.

 

It can be exhausting to have a friend who often gets emotional and needs a shoulder to cry on. It's okay to do it once in a while. That's what friends are for, after all. But maybe you crying yourself to sleep at his place was a bit too much for him and that's why he's being distant.

 

He also had a 'thing' for me at one point in time, but we ended up just being friends (i rejected his advance).

 

Does he still have a thing for you?

[SubliminalSessions]

It can be exhausting to have a friend who often gets emotional and needs a shoulder to cry on. It's okay to do it once in a while. That's what friends are for, after all. But maybe you crying yourself to sleep at his place was a bit too much for him and that's why he's being distant.

 

 

 

Does he still have a thing for you?

 

I think he does. In fact, that night it almost seemed like he was 'hinting' towards it with little innuendos, but I was in no shape to have sex with him and we're friends. We've kissed in the past, but I never felt a spark. Felt like I was kissing my little brother

 

But, I thought it was clear that there was nothing going on. He's been dating other people, and hasn't made any moves on me.

[CC12]

But, I thought it was clear that there was nothing going on. He's been dating other people, and hasn't made any moves on me.

 

Right, but you can understand how it might be hard for someone who has feelings for you to watch you cry over another guy. I'd almost say it's poor form and a little inconsiderate to use this specific friend's shoulder to cry on, but then again if he's made it seem like he's completely over you, how are you to know that it would bother him?

 

You don't seem all that invested in this friendship, so I wouldn't come out and ask why he's being distant. If he's trying to fade out of the friendship, just let him.

[mea_M]

Sounds to me like you need to establish some boundaries. You mention there has been kissing in the past. That would indicate more than just friendship. My bet, the emotional responses from him stem perhaps from feelings of confusion.Is this just a friendship or is it more? Have a heart to heart with him and see where it goes.

 

Mea:)