hopeislife Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 I met this guy in New york a few months ago.At the time admittedly I was quite drunk.I only remember speaking to him for a few minutes We exchanged emails.A few months ago I received a playful email from him.We exchanged a lot of emails back and forth.I realized how much we had in common. We exchanged pictures of each other.I couldnt remember exactly how he looked from the night I met him .I remember looking at his pictures and thinking at the time that although he was nice looking he really wasn't my type.But I found that my instincts told me to continue talking to him. I live in england so our means of communication over the next few months was via email and we spoke for a long time on the phone .We really really clicked and spoke about a lot of things that had great meaning to us.Our family and dreams and other thing.I spoke about my grandfather who had passed away a few years ago.A great inspiration in my life.It was so refreshing to speak to someone on such a deeper level.He understood my sense of humour and reminded me a lot of my close friends. The problem was I couldn't get it out of my head that although I really was drawn to him for some reason i wasn't that attracted to him so I guess I played it in that way.I told him about a date I was going on . He joked about hoping that it went terrible etc but I kind of wanted to give the message that we are just friends.We continued corresponding with each other.I enjoyed speaking to him and he had the ability to brighten my day as sappy as it sounds.but the problem was I felt no butterflies from speaking to him. Fast forward to a few days ago i changed my phone and sim card etc but didn't bother to save his number.I told him about my phone and he asked if I saved his number.i told him that I hadnt aaah .He responded by saying that he was hurt and that it was obvious that our friendship meant little to me.The email address we communicated from I end up deleting because i wanted to just keep my main email accounts.Easier to manage.if im being extremely honest i didnt think much of it.I thought well i dont see him as boyfriend material and he lives on the other side of the world. Anyway i was bored one night and ended up googling him.Don't ask why I didnt do it before.I know everyone of my generation would have already but I guess I just didnt think to and I am kicking myself for it so much. so his name came up .his instagram with pictures ,videos etc and i'm not ashamed to admit he took my breath away..exactly my type so gorgeous. so now im kicking myself and pretty annoyed by my own shallowness and the whole irony of the situation.i guess this is my karma.and i have no idea what to do.i now realized that i lost someone who was a great part of my life.even though we dont have an abundance of physical memories together for the months i spoke to him it meant something. i guess it took me to see his physical beauty to realize everything else. i am truly ashamed for this reason.I guess if im honest i now see that he was the whole package so to speak.And i cant get him out of my head. what should i do.anyone please please help ;(
Leigh 87 Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 aww that really sucks! If I were you, I would find a way to contact him, and simply explain that " I was not sure if we would have chemistry or not and I did not want to lead you on, but now lately I realise how much I do like you and that you take my breath away" What is the worst that can happen? He says you are a b*tch and ignores you. Or he does not respond at all. At best? He will say " wow, I thought we had a connection too, you hurt me with what you did, however; I would like to start talking to you again" These things suck, I think you just wanted to be certain you were into him in that way, and because you weren't, you did the right thing and stopped leading him on. 2
heartshaped Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 Life's too short for regrets. Regardless of physical attraction or not, he sounds like a great guy who you had a connection with emotionally if not physically at first. I'd see him a message saying something along the lines of, "I didn't want to lead you on before as I thought you had feelings for me..in the time we haven't spoken, I have come to realize I have feelings for you as well. x." 2
todreaminblue Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 aww that really sucks! If I were you, I would find a way to contact him, and simply explain that " I was not sure if we would have chemistry or not and I did not want to lead you on, but now lately I realise how much I do like you and that you take my breath away" What is the worst that can happen? He says you are a b*tch and ignores you. Or he does not respond at all. At best? He will say " wow, I thought we had a connection too, you hurt me with what you did, however; I would like to start talking to you again" These things suck, I think you just wanted to be certain you were into him in that way, and because you weren't, you did the right thing and stopped leading him on. hey leigh...smilin.......lol....i am going to like your post.....ahem....lol...i cant stop thinking about this song now since i read what you wrote here it is.... can you imagine what a guy would do if you broke into song after saying it you take my breath away ...sorry i just got this image of a woman breaking into song and the guy running away really fast going nooooooooooooooo...lol...you have no idea hOw i needed that laugh...luvs ya leigh....my tummy hurts.....lol....byeeeeeee...leaves singing this.....planes takiNg off in the dsitance...laFFIN MY ASS OFF Berlin~Take My Breath Away (Lyrics) - YouTube
MidwestUSA Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 He went from 'not being your type' to 'exactly my type - gorgeous'. In your head. You built him up based on some long distance communication. How exactly was he 'a great part of your life'?, so much so that you managed to delete his contact info? Only after you didn't have easy access, and you saw that he was googleable (is that a word?) and probably quite attractive to the masses, did you want him. Forget him.
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