budley12 Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 Hello LS community. I am in need of some advice please (I'll try not to make it too long)! I am a 22 year male dating another 23 year old male. We met while I was studying abroad in New Zealand and we have now been together for about 14months. I was falling in love again after my first relationship... Right after my study abroad trip I went back home to the USA, and my partner and I didn't have any future plans for us. Therefore we agreed at the time we could be in "an open relationship" (even though I didnt see anyone). Overtime, him and I continued to talk and we started making plans for us to move to Australia. Before I came over, I had asked him if he had dated anyone else and he replied "no". After snooping around-a-bit I found a guy he had been seeing, and I asked him about the guy. He got defensive and then made up a story "they only went on one date, and he was just looking to meet a friend in a new area". I believed this, and to be honest I wouldn't have been mad if he was dating anyone else, because that is what we agreed upon. Over time, more information came out about my partner and the other guy... I guess they had gone to the movies, beach, several dates (and each time I had to press/snoop to find out more information, because each time he promised there was nothing else). It was lie, after lie, after lie... Eventually I forgave him for the lies due to his clever words of "he didnt want to hurt me because the other guy means nothing, and he didnt want to upset me". I then gave up my life back home and moved to Australia to travel and be with him. Things have been great for a month, and he promised me that he had blocked/deleted/totally got rid of the other guy, but then more information began to slip from his mouth. And then just last night I looked through his phone and found an alias name that ended up being the guy, and he was meeting up with him. I approached my partner today and he again denied everything. I gave him multiple chances, and he even made me feel bad for snooping and not trusting him... and he still denied it up until I put all the facts on the table. And eventually all he said was sorry, and made up another story based on the information I found. I told him "it's over". And now he is out of our apartment (who knows where). I just cant trust him, but I love him and I know he loves me. What do I do/What are my options? I can't afford to live in Australia on my own. I want to give him another chance and I enjoy being with him... but I just cant trust him. Thank you for any input!
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