whats going on?

[loveRight]

Bare with me.. its confusing =/ Long story short..there was this guy we met went out on a couple of dates..lasted 3wks in total..and my feelings were very INTENSE towards him..im not sure how to explain his feelings towards me? yes he was interested but def not the way i was feeling towards him. We did talk about future plans and things we'd do..places we'd go. Anyways, things did go "south" but i was EXTREMELY heart broken because i had no answers...he just ignored me (he has a major issue with communication). I spent MONTHS trying to get over him...but nothing helped me. Tried dating other guys..that made me feel worse. He did end up contacting me a little over 2 months later again went out on a date because "he missed me and wanted to take me out". At the time he did tell me that things werent working out between us because of "major problems he was going through". 3mnths later i find out that hes in a relationship with this girl blahblahblah theyre together for 3 mnths until she screws up and he breaks up with her...at this point ive been living my depressed life not being able to get over him...for 7 months. KNOWING hes not worth my time to even THINK about i cant stop >.< he CONTACTS me 2wks after breaking up with her because he "realized" that i was "the one" (really?) Being stupid and naive i agreed to go out on a date he rushed the dating part to quickly to make me his gf..and because of the rush of emotions on my side it was wrong of me to agree to being his gf..because i had MAJOR trust issues with him which i HAD TO clear out before moving forward....basically i was lied to and wasnt worth his time 8mnths ago but after someone screws him over for the 488th time THATS when he realizes it?? and YES he was STILL going through those "probs" i mentioned earlier. IM sorry for coming off so confusing.....im just frustrated because currently we've been "together" for 3 months now and ive gone through this emotional rollercoaster trying to forgive him and forget the past and try to trust him. HE THINKS...even tho he wont tell me straight forward that if he admits to ALL of his mistakes..id have this "control" over him which is SO not true.

any thoughs and opinions? thank you <3

[Scales]

Here is what I think happened.You guys dated, your feelings were much stronger than his, he got a little freaked and bailed. You didn't get over him. He then asks you out again and then he again bails. His tough problems had nothing to do with it. He dates another girl, it goes bad and then he wants to get back with you. If there is anything I've noticed about this post it is the complete lack of any mention of sexual contact. Not to get too personal, but if you guys have been having sex every time you've been around each other: 1st dating period, 2nd dating period, relationship, it would make a lot of sense to me.

 

If it an emotional roller coaster thats your fault. a 7 month hang up over a guy from 3 weeks of dating isn't OK. You are ignoring your better judgement and red flags to get what you want. All of this was your choice to agree to, so don't be mad at him.