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McDonald Established Member

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Its been awhile since I posted on here.

 

It's been 9 months post break up. Things are going great. I met a girl this summer, had a blast, but we didn't date. She went abroad to study for a semester-- didn't want to commit. It was fine with me. We still keep in contact.

 

Haven't spoke to the ex for about 5 months.

 

I'm about to start school again and I'm just having weird thoughts. I'm excited to go back, but very anxious to see how I act when I run into her.

I'm sure I'll be fine. And I know that's like the last step, to be able to walk by her and say "hey".

 

I'm beyond the Part of having to avoid. Before I had to turn around when I saw her because I couldn't stand to walk by.

 

I know I'm strong enough. this summer has taught me so much. I have been told by many girls this summer that I'm attractive etc. it's been a great ego boost. Back to where it once was.

 

I just want to believe myself when I say I can do it this year. That it won't be the same as last year. I love you guys on this site and don't take it personal when I say this-- but I hope m not posting on here everyday about the problems like last year. I hope there will be nothing to post about.

 

Most people are thinking what the hell is McDonald talking about lol.

But to those who know my story since the beginning.

Thanks for your help. cav, Na, Tara maiden, simonphoeix, and the

It's goes on.

 

Thanks for a

For all your support.

 

I can't wait to post about the new people I have met this year. It almost feels like freshman year all over again.

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RiceaRoni Established Member

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That's great MD!!!!

 

I'm happy for you and happy you've been able to pull through with strength! :bunny::D:love:

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McDonald Established Member

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Thanks RR!!

It was a long road, and I'm still not fully there. But it's so close.

 

I read about what's been happening to you recently. I'm so sorry, but you, like me, have grown and I'm sure can make it through stronger than ever.

 

I was walking to get dinner today and saw them driving by. That feeling in my stomach came back. Thought about it for a bit, came on here to type this. But that's it. Just empty thoughts.

 

I just wish I wouldn't get that feeling- like butterflies in your stomach. I'm sure you all know what I'm talking about

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good for you mcdonald,i wonder where is na49,we havent heard from him???

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Great for you bro! Glad your doing ok. It was a long journey. :) Rock on! Cav

 

I also wonder what happened to NA49. sorta miss him and the good ole heart break days. lol Its incredible how we can idealize practically anything! whether it be our EX's or even the recovery process. I "almost" miss the searing pain and growth associated with it on occasion!! Crazy!

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I know you'll be fine McDonald. Hearing that other girls find you attractive has to be a nice ego boost. I know what you're talking about with the feeling in your stomach. and honestly idk if those go away. I think you just need to learn to deal with them. You can't pretend she isn't someone who she actually is. No matter how many mental gymnastics you do. She is who she is. Your ex. A girl who you used to date. A girl you had romantic feelings for at one point. It's a roller coaster as we all know, but your worst days are definitely behind you. Good luck this semester dude! This semester has been really tough for me which is one reason I haven't been as active.

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McDonald Established Member

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Thanks guys. It's good to hear from all you again.

 

My semester (quarter system) starts Thursday. I'm sure I'll be busy then as well. It's just a lot of sitting down right now waiting for things to happen... Like

School.

 

I have to go create things to do. Instead of relying on others. That's what I have learned as of late.

 

Dependency not on a RS, but on others in general for things is my problem.

cavalier99 Established Member

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im soo happy this is like old times! NA how are you? are u still with the same girl?

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Thanks guys. It's good to hear from all you again.

 

My semester (quarter system) starts Thursday. I'm sure I'll be busy then as well. It's just a lot of sitting down right now waiting for things to happen... Like

School.

 

I have to go create things to do. Instead of relying on others. That's what I have learned as of late.

 

Dependency not on a RS, but on others in general for things is my problem.

 

Good for you man. No walking by her place lol...kidding. bet you look back and cant believe you did that. i look back and have trouble remebering what i was so messed up about. :)

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im soo happy this is like old times! NA how are you? are u still with the same girl?

 

Stressing. This workload is ridiculous and it can only get worse. I am with the same girl, It's been 5+ months now since we've "reconciled" and things have been good so far.

 

How is everything with you?

 

I feel like reading some of my old posts just to look at where my head was at back then as opposed to where it is today. I like to think I've come a long way since I first joined here. Not only on dealing with the relationship stuff, but with things in general.

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Stressing. This workload is ridiculous and it can only get worse. I am with the same girl, It's been 5+ months now since we've "reconciled" and things have been good so far.

 

How is everything with you?

 

I feel like reading some of my old posts just to look at where my head was at back then as opposed to where it is today. I like to think I've come a long way since I first joined here. Not only on dealing with the relationship stuff, but with things in general.

 

Thats great. I still cant beleive that you guys ended up getting back together. Im really happy that it is working out for you. No need to read your old threads. I still remember them by heart! haha How can any of us or you forget your beutiful circular thought process back then. :)

 

Im glad to hear that your in a different spot. I do know you what you mean about trying to remeber what it was like. The suffering and pain is such a distant memory now.

 

Im still with the new girl. Things have been ok. weve had a few ups and dows but the relationship seem to be holding stong. its been like 6 months now. The 1 year aniversivsary of my BU is coming up believe it or not.

 

I still talk to and hang out with the ex every so often. no more hooking up obviously like that 1st time i saw her. we just view each other fondly. it is weird to think i was so messed up about her.

 

now i can hang with her and dicusss if she is trying to get pregnant with her BF ecetera. she even helps me get hotel rooms at great rates with my gf when we travel. anyway glad your doing well! keep up the good work at school! rock on! cav

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This is just like old times hahaha. Almost like a love shack class reunion hahahh.

 

Good for you Na. I'm happy to hear that it's working out for the better-- and since your starting your second year it should only look up from here.

 

Cav I'm happy that you are still with your gf!! And it's great that you are on those terms with your ex.

 

And yea lol. No more walking by haha. That was old stuff. We live less then 3 blocks from each other. I'm bound to run into her when I least expect it. But I can handle it

Now--- because there's nothing to handle in the first place!!!

I've always been one to start my own drama out of stuff. Not anymore!!!

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cavalier99 Established Member

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Thats great man. doesnt if feel good to just feel normal. I bet you confidence is way up. As soon as you really become happy being single youll be amazed at how the girls start showing up unexpectedly! Cav

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God, I can't wait until I am where you guys seem to be at with this.

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McDonald Established Member

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God, I can't wait until I am where you guys seem to be at with this.

 

Yea.. Took me almost 500 posts though:/

It will come, for me... It was month 8 when I was over it for the most part.

 

@cav it does feel great!

 

Just now I have no excuse for

Not doing things.. Like I would stay in because of the BU. But now no excuse. It's different though. I'm in a new house because my fraternity got kicked off last year... And it's a whole adjustment thing. But I'll adjust.

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