dreameater Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 Need tips, help people... I tried to have fun, to make myself happy, but it is not easy... Eveyone around me is in couple except me! I am the one alone now because my EX GF dump me a year ago and keep using me as an emotional support and I hate this! I don't know what I did wrong, but she rather think about giving a change to the one she considered as "Big Brother" than me. What did I do to give her a such pain by not giving me a chance? Also, how can I deal with this if NC is not possible? I mean, she is playing with my best friend and his sister. Whenever they go out, my best friend doesn't invite me because he doesn't want me to meet her back. And he asked me to go out with him 1 TIME a week so we can keep contact. When I drop him back home and if I meet his sister, she will tell me that she was shopping or went to drink with my EX, so my memory will go back... Sometime, I keep thinking about her, another day I want my revenger because she dumps and use me, then next day, I miss her again... What should I do now? I am not a open-mind guy, so it is hard for me to meet new women and when I meet one, it is always taken. Dang! I feel so pissoff!!
Author dreameater Posted September 16, 2013 Author Posted September 16, 2013 (edited) How is she using you for emotional support and why are you letting her? You can check my previous thread for the long story... The WORST PART that will make me stuck in this situation is the CALL she made 2 months ago! She was in party with the new badguy (rebound) and then that guy want to keep the fun so he want to go to another party, but she had enough as she was tired... Then she asked him to drive her back home. That guy asked a friend of him to drive her back while he was enjoying the party... She was mad then called me. I picked up the phone then she started with low desesperate voice... "You are right (dedicate to me) that I shouldn't be with him". Now, I am stuck here and I cannot get out as I am loyal and he didn't do or hurt me yet... I cannot leave him just yet! Then she started to cry and beg me for a Facetime chat as she want to see my face as we didn't see each other for 5 months. I don't know why, but I accepted... Then she start the chat and told me that My face haven't changed... Then blame me why I didn't come to see after the breakup. If I did, we will never breakup and let a chance to this guy... After that chat, her wound is cured and mine is still open and she doesn't give a sht on me. She seems to enjoy her life with him leaving me behind. And everytime she is not happy, she kept coming to me as she know I will be there to support her. Then I email her asking her to leave me alone. And she replied in arrogance way "OK! BYE!". Then everytime, she got into trouble, she keeps bother me or try to find something to intrigue me to reply her! I never reply nor pickup her call, then she start to ask if the guy which is called him as her BigBrother can be her boyfriend. So she got me, so I replied to her! Dang! What's wrong with this girl? Why cant I have peace!!! And how can I have it if my best friend which I see everyweek is going out (with his GF) with her on weekend and he is trying to hide her from me to avoid affecting my emotion? I discovered it because his sister (of my best friend) told me last time. How can I cure myself with the NC process if i keep hearing from her? And she still has a debt that she owns me and her sister too! She will bump me every month or so. What is this crap? Why I have to go through all of this? Give me a chance to date her back or push her far away from me that is just what I want! It is not hard why I cannot and stuck in this mess!!! I got burn out everyday! After work, I have to take a nap because I am exhausted not because of my work, because of my mind thinking of her! And weekend is worst because people chill out and I am alone at home... Think think and think!!!! Edited September 16, 2013 by dreameater
Simon Phoenix Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 You need to stop responding to her. That's the only thing you can control is how you deal with your responses. Every time you respond, you are screwing yourself over. It's time for your to take responsibility and stop talking to her. It's not her fault that you don't have the self-control to step back.
Author dreameater Posted September 16, 2013 Author Posted September 16, 2013 (edited) Last time, she email me saying we will go to drink coffee soon as she will try to forget that badguy... Then she took vacation then FB me sharing her life story... Then showing a pix of her bed with tje brand new dolls I gave her... Why all this? Now it is emotional tampon! This girl is witch!! Today, I have to go to maket and it is near her home so i have to pass her home to get there... Guess what? I saw that guy car parked in front of her home! My hear is in flame because this girl is so crap! What's wrong with her for using me as tampon? Didn't she know she is hurting me? Edited September 16, 2013 by dreameater
Simon Phoenix Posted September 17, 2013 Posted September 17, 2013 Last time, she email me saying we will go to drink coffee soon as she will try to forget that badguy... Then she took vacation then FB me sharing her life story... Then showing a pix of her bed with tje brand new dolls I gave her... Why all this? Now it is emotional tampon! This girl is witch!! Today, I have to go to maket and it is near her home so i have to pass her home to get there... Guess what? I saw that guy car parked in front of her home! My hear is in flame because this girl is so crap! What's wrong with her for using me as tampon? Didn't she know she is hurting me? Stop responding to it. It's not her job to stop doing it -- it's your job to stop responding to it. Every time you play into it, it's your fault, not hers.
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