AutumnMoon Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 (edited) I had never done any reading or looking around or put much thought into affairs before recently. I never thought I'd be in an affair especially this specific situation but I'm content with it right now. I'm on the side. I'm not even really "the other woman" as I see it.. I don't expect half his time, he needs to give that to his wife. I give my time to my kids, my job and my husband. He's on the side for a sliver of beautiful vacation every once in a while.. It started out emotional but unless I was going to leave my marriage that was never going to be sustainable long term. I wish it was.. But with my personality I would get way too deep.. We still have a deep emotional connection but a lot of it is unspoken, as are able to see each other often but not often alone. It works for us.. We don't expect anything more from each other than respect.. Although ill admit he needs a lesson in it sometime soon... What is the level of your emotional / physical relationship? Is it all I love you's and roses.. Is it more sexual? Every day? Once a month? Do you want to end your marriage or have him/her leave there's? Or do you want to continue on the side? Is one considered worse than the other? Are you married or single? Do you consider yourself on the side or are you in a parallel relationship? I've even seen some consider themselves to be the main partner. No judgment , i apoligise for the 20 questions. I'm just curious! Edited September 16, 2013 by AutumnMoon
Crazy_Love Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 We see each other every day for eight or so hours each day. It is very much an emotional relationship first. We are best friends first and foremost, companions, confidants and lastly lovers. The sexual component is the least important now, even though that's originally why we got together. Neither of us can leave our marriages nor are we willing to. Him because he loves his wife, me because I have kids who are happy. We both consider ourselves as equal partners in a relationship on par to our marriages. Our spouses know we are close, they don't know about the sexual component. We've both tried approaching our spouses about open relationships unsuccessfully. He is the love of my life who I will never have completely.
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