clw Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 Dear all..I will appreciate any advise given to me so that I can have a clearer picture of how and what I should do..I've learnt so much from all the previous replies that I cope much better. I've been with my bf for 3 years..through out we encountered alot of difficulties, seperated on several occassions and I had an abortion 6 months ago. We 'broke up' before realising that I was pregnant but decided that an abortion was the most practical, he sticked around to help me cope with things and soon we just got comfortable and started being together again like before. He was still good and caring towards me and my son from my ex. So what happened was I discovered that he started messaging random girls on social sites again (i knew about these activities before the breakup) and last weekend, I happend to look at his phone and saw that he had long texts with a girl from another country and they spoke about how he misses her and would like to bring her for a holiday and the girl said that she'll come and see him in December and she calls him Darling. I was heartbroken, it didn't seem like harmless flirting..on impluse I deleted that text and block her from his contact list. Before I had the chance to confront him, he told me last night, he'd booked tickets for us to go on a vacation in December.. I really don't know what to do..all these text and flirting hurts so bad each time I discovered them..and yet i can't find the courage to leave as he's really good & caring towards me. So it's really unclear to me why does he need to carry on with such texts and flirting online Should I bury this incident and go on as normal..will a confrontation help clear the air? I really hope that he doesn't do these again but if he doesn't realised i know and how much he've been hurting me..there'll be no change. Please help me.. Thank you for reading my post
reddragon588 Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 You need to share with him your concerns and how it is making you feel. If you don't, it will continue to fester in your subconscious and affect other parts of your relationship. Honesty and communication are the most important parts of a successful and healthy relationship. 2
forgetmenot75 Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 Confront him. He seems a player to me. Do you really want to be with a cheater and a player? :/ 1
Author clw Posted September 17, 2013 Author Posted September 17, 2013 Thank you for your valuable comments. In my heart I guess i know what i'll have to do. But at this point, it just seem no way out, and nothing i do would be right. This 'relationship' is wearing me out. i can't focus..I can't sleep. Love should not be this way
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