wsid Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 how we meet , really is of no importance now but I will say I moved to be closer. So now that its over I find myself in a town full of strangers. But the point of this post is the pictures on my computer I wish so much I could look at them without them making me sad I really fell hard for this girl I hate to just delet the pictures , maybe one day I could look back at them and be happy I feel like an alcoholic with a cabinet full stocked but not allowed to touch a drop I want to get drunk ( metaphorically) I am so lost
Sparkle304 Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 Copy the pictures to a memory stick and then delete them from your computer. Stash the memory stick at the back of your closet. One day you will be able to look at the pictures and remember the times with happiness not sadness. 2
L1ght Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 DO NOT DELETE THE PICTURES YET! Honestly we can lie to ourselves sometimes when we are still trying to deal with things and it could be so easy to delete the pics in a moment of spontaneity when we think we are over it but I can tell from how upset you sound that you are nowhere near over it. You know what happens after you delete pics when you're not ready? A day comes where you desperately need to see something that reminds you of your ex and if a simple pic isn't there it could lead you to do something stupid like reach out and call them in a moment of desperation which is most probably the single worst thing you can do. So.....save the pics on a memory stick like the other poster said and put them in a draw. Just knowing you have the pics is often enough. If you need a look then have a look for 5 mins then put it back and then get on with your life. I still have pics of my ex but I havn't looked at them for over 6 months....I'm probably ready to bin them now but the only reason I havn't is because its not a big deal.....I feel no rush to desperately delete anything cos I couldn't care less anymore. One day you will be over it. Good luck.
Author wsid Posted September 16, 2013 Author Posted September 16, 2013 Yes I should do that . I may have a Disc I can put them too
CarrieT Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 My ExH put our entire history into a pile and burned it when we split. That was 25 years ago but it is slightly bittersweet that it was only after my parents passed away that I found ONE PICTURE of my wedding and no other. Don't delete the pictures. There will be a day when you will want the memory.
LostOne1 Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 Funny thing is I thought I'd want the pictures and never deleted them. But I've never actually ever looked at them or accidentally when I was looking for some old file for a school project. Other than that I never have had the urge to look at any photo's. To be honest I'm at the point where I don't want to know her or see anything about her. I know even if she came running back I'd never take her back. Things have gone way to far for me to ever take her back. So pictures for me mean nothing at this point. The one I did see accidentally I laugh at now.. why? Because instead of looking at the picture and saying wow look at her. The whole time I was thinking "man that burger shack behind me was so good" hahaha. I guess it's a good sign to know I am indifferent now towards my ex. I don't hate her that I'd wish she dies, but I don't care for her that I'd give a kidney to her. All I know is that where ever she is and how ever she is... that's her life and fate. But to me it's more important of where I'm going and what I am doing now. Everyone gets to this point sooner or later. 1
lauri Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 I personally deleted my ex's photos shortly after we broke up. I found it hard to do, but I also believe that doing it will help me move on.
hurts2death Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 i dont want to believe what you say....My ExH put our entire history into a pile and burned it when we split. That was 25 years ago but it is slightly bittersweet that it was only after my parents passed away that I found ONE PICTURE of my wedding and no other. Don't delete the pictures. There will be a day when you will want the memory.
L1ght Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 (edited) My ExH put our entire history into a pile and burned it when we split. That was 25 years ago but it is slightly bittersweet that it was only after my parents passed away that I found ONE PICTURE of my wedding and no other. Don't delete the pictures. There will be a day when you will want the memory. I'm not like that. There comes a point where I have to get rid of it all. I agree with keeping pics for a little while just in case I have a craving to see my ex's face while I'm dealing with things and IMO taking a quick look at a pic is better than desperately emailing or calling them.....its a "quick fix" if you like. Keeping the pics long term though? I can't do that. At some point I have to let everything go and I don't want to hold on to any of the memories anymore as I look forward in my life......its definitely a psychological thing. It becomes like...."why hold onto something when they are not a part of my life anymore?"...."why try to hold onto a feeling when they don't feel anything for me anymore?".....Once I'm over my ex these questions make me just want to get rid of everything and look in a completely different direction as I move on Edited September 16, 2013 by L1ght
carhill Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 One potential to consider is that, once clear of the grief process, it's healthy to reflect upon and embrace who one was when they loved another, and image and sound serve as memory assistance, to augment the clarity with which one experiences the totality of their life. CarrieT and I are older and we've both been married, so perhaps we have a different perspective on such matters. Myself, I don't recall deleting anything. Our M is all there, in movies and print and images. When it was good, it was, and I greatly value the person I was when I loved her. Life went on; we moved on. Nothing, including life, is forever and, at the end, if we're lucky, all we have is memories. Up to each of us to choose those of value to us. Good luck. 1
crazy1234 Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 Funny thing is I thought I'd want the pictures and never deleted them. But I've never actually ever looked at them or accidentally when I was looking for some old file for a school project. Other than that I never have had the urge to look at any photo's. To be honest I'm at the point where I don't want to know her or see anything about her. I know even if she came running back I'd never take her back. Things have gone way to far for me to ever take her back. So pictures for me mean nothing at this point. The one I did see accidentally I laugh at now.. why? Because instead of looking at the picture and saying wow look at her. The whole time I was thinking "man that burger shack behind me was so good" hahaha. I guess it's a good sign to know I am indifferent now towards my ex. I don't hate her that I'd wish she dies, but I don't care for her that I'd give a kidney to her. All I know is that where ever she is and how ever she is... that's her life and fate. But to me it's more important of where I'm going and what I am doing now. Everyone gets to this point sooner or later. "where ever she is and how ever she is... that's her life and fate"..we should all learn to accept things like this and never wish or hope anything of them or from them. 1
L1ght Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 One thing that does speed up the "deleting pics" process is if I know that my ex has found someone else. I mean how can I possibly hold on to feelings for her when she is with someone else? IMO its definitely time to let go of everything when your ex is seeking out love from somebody that isn't you. 2
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