Romaks Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 (edited) Hi guys, this is my first post. I'm 19 and I just started my second year of college. I've been dating a girl from my high school since late in the summer after I graduated (she's 2 grades below.) My college is in the same town, so it's not a long distance relationship since I haven't gone anywhere. Things quickly escalated between us, and we fell deeply in love. We were inseparable and we both agreed that the year has been the best that we've ever had. We both liked to talk about how sure our future is together and how perfect our kids are going to be and so on. Recently, a few weeks after our 1 year anniversary (which was the best day/weekend we spent together by far) she all of a sudden starts talking to me differently. I could tell that something was clearly wrong, but she would not let on as to what. After a day or two, it starts driving me crazy, and I have a break down. I finally convinced her to tell me what the problem is. She's been talking to this guy (a classmate of hers) that got dumped by his gf (after three years), and he was in a bad emotional state. He even says that he would have kissed MY gf if she weren't with me, and a part of her wanted him to do that. This apparently scared her a lot and she started rethinking things. But all of a sudden, she's having serious doubts about us and our future. She says that she doesn't think she can make a college decision without it being her decision alone because she'll find herself making the decision that keeps her close to me, and that's not fair. She's saying these things like she's really confused, and she doesn't really know what to do. She doesn't understand why she's feeling this way, and she can't stand for me not to be in her life anymore, but she really feels like it's something she really has to do, so as difficult as it was, she feels like she has to end it, and doesn't seem to think there's a romantic future between us anymore. I'm so shocked, and I'm at a loss of what to do. She says she thinks she'll probably never find someone like me and all but it's completely over. Needless to say, I'm heartbroken. Any advice? I definitely want to get back together with her, and I made sure I didn't beg or anything like that, although I did cry in front of her. I've been with a bunch of girls, but I'm so sure in my heart that she's the one, so that's why this makes it all the more worse. I always treat her right, and my intentions have always been noble. Her family all love and respect me, so there are no issues there. I'm so torn apart, and the future really scares me, and I really cannot imagine life without her. Edited September 15, 2013 by Romaks
Chi townD Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 Dude, she's got the hots for someone else and she given you the boot and I guarantee that she's with this asshat right now. THAT'S what she felt for you. THAT'S what your relationship meant to her. That it was completely expendable. SO, you need to go dark on her. She made the choice to have you out of her life, so that's what you give her. She needs to know that her choice has made you leave her life. That you are NOT her friend and you won't be around. She needs to see what life is going to be like without you in it. Ignore all texts and let all phonecalls go to voicemail. BLOCK HER ON FACEBOOK!!! I guarantee you that this asshat and her are going to be saying sweet things to each other on her status updates and you don't need to be seeing that or pics of them together.
Author Romaks Posted September 16, 2013 Author Posted September 16, 2013 She says she won't even be able to date anyone, and that this was nothing to do about him. She only talked about it because that marked the point where she started seeing things differently and reevaluating. This guy's probably worse off than me because his gf, the one he's loved for 3 years, does the same exact thing so all this attention he's been getting from my gf is making him think she's a replacement. Also, I'd say my ex is a 'good girl.' Guys don't usually see her that way because she's cute and all, but they know her parents are super over-protective and that they're not going to get very far with her because she's not able to disobey her parents. I guess I gave her more confidence since I was a little older and more popular than her you know?
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