SadHumiliated Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 So I just hit the 5 month mark of NC(you can see my past threads regarding my situation), and while all my feelings for him are gone I find myself still dealing with the emotional fallout of what being cheated on does to you. I realize that even though it was "about him", the girl he cheated with was the total opposite of me and they are apparently still together. It feels like everything about me was wrong and unlovable. I'm angry that I was just used as a placeholder and angry that my emotions were played with in that manner. I'm angry that there are no consequences for him treating someone the way he did and I had to deal with the emotional fallout. My ego hurts because he has never reached out at all which means he didn't care at all. It's a messed up place to be. I know it will get better. This is the first time in months I've felt these emotions come up. Don't know what triggered it. I feel like I can't talk to my friends anymore about any of these feelings because they are over the situation while it privately spins in my head. I guess I just need encouragement and stories of getting over the hurt right now. 2
mea_M Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 Sad, Anger is part of the healing process. Feel it, understand it and eventually it will have less power. The more head on you can be when dealing with the many emotions and feelings one can go through during tough times, only serves you better emotionally in the long run. Congrats on the NC and you will get there on your time. Mea:)
Ireallydontknow Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 I feel you right there. Being cheated on is such a dirty feeling. You know the other person's body so well, their reactions, what they do in bed. It's so easy to see them with the other person. It's degrading. It's been over a month here and as far as I know, she is still with the guy who cheated on me. I understand the feeling of just craving justice for such an immoral action. The feeling of being left behind while they found someone else with you is just infuriating. The anger can become all consuming. Just deal with it and own it. Just know it wasn't you, cheaters are selfish escapists. They care only about themselves feeling good and most of the time they don't regret it. Once a cheater always a cheater. The person they left you for will get thiers once the relationship stagnates, when the cheater gets "bored" and needs a new thrill. Stay strong, screw them, they are so not worth it, but typing this out got me angry too! It's not fair! 5
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