AD1980 Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 Ive been working out lately for the firts time really ever not hardcore lifting or anything but doing some curls and other things and have pretty decent biceps and lost weight im more lean muscular now.. If my face is unattractive is it really gonna matter if i have a decent body? or will some women overlook a bad face if the bodys decent?
mammasita Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 I guess it depends. For me no. I'm not a hard core perfect body person, I care more about what your face looks like, but again that's subjective. What face I find attractive is and can be completey different from what others find attractive.
MrCastle Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 Having a good body will always help you no matter what. I think it helps men facially too. I know when I started working out my face became more masculine and older looking. I mean obviously it's not gonna change your nose or the shape of your eyes or whatever but it will help you look more masculine and that's always a good thing. Aside from that you really can't do much to your face and just have to be confident you can get a woman no matter what you look like. 2
Author AD1980 Posted September 15, 2013 Author Posted September 15, 2013 Aside from that you really can't do much to your face and just have to be confident you can get a woman no matter what you look like. After 33 years i realized my face isnt getting it done to attract women so i borught in reinforcements
Author AD1980 Posted September 15, 2013 Author Posted September 15, 2013 No. Even if your body isn't really good youll still be fine. If you have a good personality and treat women with respect you are doing better than most men today. Guys are the ones obsessed with looks. Not women. I know lots of very average looking or kind of ugly men with beautiful women. In fact, that set up is pretty much what happened with all of my married friends. Their husbands don't treat them like crap most of the time. It happens a lot...the reverse never happens! Stop stressin' I figured this cliche post[no offense to you] of women dont care about looks that much would come in but in 33 years of living experience i know looks are as important to both genders.
deathandtaxes Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 Ive been working out lately for the firts time really ever not hardcore lifting or anything but doing some curls and other things and have pretty decent biceps and lost weight im more lean muscular now.. If my face is unattractive is it really gonna matter if i have a decent body? or will some women overlook a bad face if the bodys decent? Don't work out for anybody except yourself. And don't skimp on the legs, either. 1
MrCastle Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 After 33 years i realized my face isnt getting it done to attract women so i borught in reinforcements I don't know. When you see people with unfortunate disfigurements like JR Martinez get attractive women, you look at life differently. Extreme disfigurements aside -- I have seen legit ugly men (I can admit when a man is attractive but these men were not) get good looking women. It's not money or status or anything like that, but rather personality. 4
Author AD1980 Posted September 15, 2013 Author Posted September 15, 2013 I don't know. When you see people with unfortunate disfigurements like JR Martinez get attractive women, you look at life differently. Extreme disfigurements aside -- I have seen legit ugly men (I can admit when a man is attractive but these men were not) get good looking women. It's not money or status or anything like that, but rather personality. Theyre's exceptions to every rule but thats 1 in a thousand..most couples are pretty evenly matched up..problem is im not attracted to a female verison of me so im trying to attract a decent looking women hoping the body will help in that department..
MrCastle Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 Theyre's exceptions to every rule but thats 1 in a thousand..most couples are pretty evenly matched up..problem is im not attracted to a female verison of me so im trying to attract a decent looking women hoping the body will help in that department.. Well, some women care more about a man's physique than his face, sure. But is that sustainable? If you're looking for a hookup, sure. But what happens when you get old and flabby. What then? You want someone who likes you for you. Likes you as a person. Not someone who likes you so long as you keep working out.
Author AD1980 Posted September 15, 2013 Author Posted September 15, 2013 Well, some women care more about a man's physique than his face, sure. But is that sustainable? If you're looking for a hookup, sure. But what happens when you get old and flabby. What then? You want someone who likes you for you. Likes you as a person. Not someone who likes you so long as you keep working out. Im not saying its only about looks im saying thats what gets your foot in the door..I see how easy it is for my good looking friends and how invisible ive been so im trying to help get my foot in the door..
Brown-Eyez Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 Ive been working out lately for the firts time really ever not hardcore lifting or anything but doing some curls and other things and have pretty decent biceps and lost weight im more lean muscular now.. If my face is unattractive is it really gonna matter if i have a decent body? or will some women overlook a bad face if the bodys decent? good grooming (haircut, nails, teeth, skin etc) of what you've got goes along way too also dressing well means alot this is what less attractive girls do and it helps even the odds some and its really true, if you feel you look good, you give off a more confident vibe 1
soccerrprp Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 Well, some women care more about a man's physique than his face, sure. But is that sustainable? If you're looking for a hookup, sure. But what happens when you get old and flabby. What then? You want someone who likes you for you. Likes you as a person. Not someone who likes you so long as you keep working out. Well, I plan to work out until I am unable to lift a weight, so until I'm dead. Seriously, so true. The physique will eventually be overcome by the intellectual/emotional connection you have with your SO. To go back to the original question, no, your working out won't make an overall difference in your facial qualities, but may redirect a potential woman from that to your healthy appearance. I agree that most women are LESS interested in the looks than men are. Good luck.
Scales Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 good grooming (haircut, nails, teeth, skin etc) of what you've got goes along way too also dressing well means alot this is what less attractive girls do and it helps even the odds some and its really true, if you feel you look good, you give off a more confident vibe Exactly this. If you have genetic flaws you can do nothing about such as being short or being ugly, your battle is definitely uphill but winnable. Hygiene and fashion are of the utmost importance, followed by body and personality. Also, depending on what makes you ugly, facial plastic surgery is an option. Don't listen to anyone who things we should all be "natural" or that its shallow. Depending on your problem, plastic surgery can make your life turn 180. 1
CrystalCastles Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 Looks are really not that important to women. And if they're a dealbreaker to the woman you're chasing, then she's not worth it. I've chased after guys for reasons OTHER than looks. I do notice a nice body. I like it when guys wear well-fitted shirts so you can tell they've got a nice body. Above all, I prefer a confident man who has a good sense of humour and can carry out intelligent conversations. For me, those men have always won over the men who are good looking but boring and dumb as stumps. 2
cif Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 You know that quote there are no ugly people only lazy ones. personally i don't belive there are inherently hideous people IF you take care of hygeine, well-groomed, hair/eyebrows/facial hair stylized to bring out your features, flawless skin, clean white straight teeth etc. it would be difficult to see someone manicured to perfection and think they're ugly. Usually poor eating, sleeping, grooming habits bring out the ugly...aka laziness. Notice i didn't mention anything you couldn't change in a few weeks. 1
xxoo Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 Theyre's exceptions to every rule but thats 1 in a thousand..most couples are pretty evenly matched up..problem is im not attracted to a female verison of me so im trying to attract a decent looking women hoping the body will help in that department.. You are looking for something you aren't willing to offer. You want a woman to look past your looks, but you aren't willing to do the same. Working out will increase your attractiveness overall. 3
Phoe Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 Taking care of yourself is always a wonderful thing but do it for YOU. I am ridiculous about my body. Religious gym-goer, careful about what I put IN my body, take care of my skin and hair, exfoliate, moisturize, groom. I keep every inch of me well cared for and I have no f**ks to give if nobody sees it because I do it for ME. For example, I take care of my feet ridiculously. Toes are always perfectly pedicured, scrubbed, lotioned.... and then I go and wear closed toe shoes everyday. No one sees them. Taking care of your body helps, but should always be something that you do to make yourself happy, to promote "inner wellness" ya know? ^_^ 2
Phoe Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 You know that quote there are no ugly people only lazy ones. personally i don't belive there are inherently hideous people IF you take care of hygeine, well-groomed, hair/eyebrows/facial hair stylized to bring out your features, flawless skin, clean white straight teeth etc. it would be difficult to see someone manicured to perfection and think they're ugly. Usually poor eating, sleeping, grooming habits bring out the ugly...aka laziness. Notice i didn't mention anything you couldn't change in a few weeks. ^This is something I believe in as well. Facial structure be damned. Height be damned. As long as a guy keeps proper hygiene and takes care of himself, I do not consider him ugly. Clean, healthy, happy men are the best ones 1
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 Ive been working out lately for the firts time really ever not hardcore lifting or anything but doing some curls and other things and have pretty decent biceps and lost weight im more lean muscular now.. If my face is unattractive is it really gonna matter if i have a decent body? or will some women overlook a bad face if the bodys decent? Well, I'm short (though I do have a good-looking face). Short is considered even worse than having an unattractive face in this society. I don't work out because I hate it. So I'm basically short and scrawny. Never really had any trouble attracting hot girls (even on cold approaches). So it can be done for sure.
Eddy B Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 Ive been working out lately for the firts time really ever not hardcore lifting or anything but doing some curls and other things and have pretty decent biceps and lost weight im more lean muscular now.. If my face is unattractive is it really gonna matter if i have a decent body? or will some women overlook a bad face if the bodys decent? Some women do have a thing for muscular guys. I do not think that this is a universal trait that attracts women though. Strive to develop yourself in every way you'd like. This is the best way.
Energy Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 Personally I think a good physique can make a "meh" man look handsome, look at the actor/wrestler Dwayne Johnson for example. His face is hardly something to write home about, but he's very jacked and it makes him appear more attractive, because his body has a very masculine vibe about it. But you have to keep in mind that there's a lot of women out there that are simply not attracted to that kind of physique - or are even revolted by it. The gay community seem to be a lot more stoked by the "bodybuilder" look than heterosexual women.... Looks are really not that important to women. And if they're a dealbreaker to the woman you're chasing, then she's not worth it. I've chased after guys for reasons OTHER than looks. I do notice a nice body. I like it when guys wear well-fitted shirts so you can tell they've got a nice body. Above all, I prefer a confident man who has a good sense of humour and can carry out intelligent conversations. For me, those men have always won over the men who are good looking but boring and dumb as stumps. You seem to be implying that it's bad or unreasonable for women to value good looks in a man..? Why? The OP has specifically said he wants a decent looking woman, so this isn't about being "shallow". It's about being reasonable...
carhill Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 'Unattractive' is relative, as masculine faces have quite a range from 'pretty' to 'ugly'. IMO, if you have a classically masculine face, you'll be attractive to a range of female observers, no matter how pretty or ugly. Less clear is when you have a face which women view as effeminate in shape or features. These nuances apply to the subset of women who depend on initial visual attractiveness to decide whether to spend any time to get to know the man. These are the 'ten second' women. There are plenty who do not rely on this initial impression so aligning yourself with that dating pool will likely result in better success if you don't initially 'turn heads' in a positive way. Your body condition will be helpful, but I'd suggest seeking/having a fit body for your own health and longevity rather than the purpose of attracting women. Good luck.
Bigcitydreamer Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 A hot body can absolutely make up for a lack in face. If a guy has a great body I'm definitely more forgiving when it comes to the face.
LBlanc Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 I don't know. When you see people with unfortunate disfigurements like JR Martinez get attractive women, you look at life differently. Extreme disfigurements aside -- I have seen legit ugly men (I can admit when a man is attractive but these men were not) get good looking women. It's not money or status or anything like that, but rather personality. So true..so true. I got a butt ugly reed thin uncle who's been married twice and a serial cheater. Every fling he had were with younger freaking hot women...i mean seriously hot! (one of them in fact was with my high school teacher:lmao:). But then he was a local politician (lost the last election) so that may have something to do with it. 1
Author AD1980 Posted September 16, 2013 Author Posted September 16, 2013 You are looking for something you aren't willing to offer. You want a woman to look past your looks, but you aren't willing to do the same. Working out will increase your attractiveness overall. The first thread in the post was me talking about how im working out now and have a good physique
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