pefectlylonely Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 Hey guys, was hoping to get some input on this situation; I met this girl on vacation and it so happened we lived in the same city, we got along great and even had sex on the last night of the trip. We kept in touch after we got back and 'dated' each other for about a month before she called it quits yesterday. Here's the back story; She's a 2nd year med student so pretty much all her focus is in school and I got that, we would hang out about twice a week on average (dinners, walks, just chill) but we would talk every day via text. Things are going great, I made her laugh alot, did small romantic gestures, she was really affectionate with me and we would even talk about future plans for us (like owning pets together). The last week before she broke it off she had gone to a wedding and we were texting each other quite a bit while she was there but didn't text me at all the day after the wedding, I texted her a day later it seems we were back on track for communication but I felt the answers were not as elaborate as they were before, short and to the point. I suggested dinner during the week and she agreed, we had a great time at dinner, again she was super affectionate with me so I just brushed off all the other stuff. I text her a funny story that happened to me on Friday morning and get no reply. So Saturday morning rolls around still with no reply I just decide I dont care I'll text her what she was up to today hoping to spend the day with her. She texts back and tells me how she was in a car accident last night and it got her to re-evalutate things in her life and that she can't see me anymore because she just wants to see her family and friends. I'm not really buying that that's the reason she doesn't want to see me anymore. In any case, I didn't argue, I just told her I think she's an amazing person, I enjoyed the time we spent together and wished her all the best. She did the same and that was it. Normally, I would just let it go but I really felt something with this girl and and it hurts me more than when my ex of 4 years broke up. She's the first girl I genuinely liked in a long time. Should I just let her go or wait 4-5 days and follow up with how she's doing? I wrote a letter expressing some feelings I had which I didn't share with her before and am wondering if its a good idea to send it or not. Either way any input would be much appreciated. Thanks in advance guys.
forgetmenot75 Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 Seems to me that she lost interest, either she found a new guy or she wants to be alone. You can do NOTHING at this time. Stay no contact, she said clearly she sees you like a friend right now. Your best chance is to become unavailable for her through no contact.
Author pefectlylonely Posted September 15, 2013 Author Posted September 15, 2013 So a last ditch attempt in like a week is a bad idea altogether?
soccerrprp Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 Go NC. Like Forgetmenot75 says, nothing you can and should do/say.
Scales Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 Lets not treat a vacation hook up more than it should be. I'm not trying to say you guys didn't make a connection, but its just not realistic. Also her saying got into a car accident is about 99% BS. Its not a reason to dump anybody. She just needed an excuse to let you down easy so she doesn't come off as being a bitch. Do yourself a favor and move on. Sending texts will only make it worse.
Author pefectlylonely Posted September 15, 2013 Author Posted September 15, 2013 I think you guys are right, its just hard to let it go because we were seeing each other for a month after that. I'm just confused as to why she didnt do it sooner?
fanine Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 I think you guys are right, its just hard to let it go because we were seeing each other for a month after that. I'm just confused as to why she didnt do it sooner? It might just be she did like you at first, but then over time she realised it wasn't working for her. It also seems she changed after the wedding she went to. Maybe she met someone new there?
Mrlonelyone Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 It sounds to me like something changed when she went to that wedding. You sound young and so does she so let me clue you in. Young women are very influenced by what their close female friends (and especially relatives) think of a man. In many cases they will dump a guy they like if their friends don't like him or don't think they look cute together or whatever. So, odds are it wasn't another man. If it was another man there would still be hope. She went to that wedding and described you to her female friends and relatives and you got the big thumbs down. Go NC cut her off loose her number and don't look back. Someday you will find a real woman who will love you in such a way that this silly little girl won't compare.
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