SLB1990 Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 I've been dating my best friends brother for about 4 months on and off (big no-no, I know) well I've broken it off a couple of times because I could tell he was falling more and more head over heels and I just wasn't. I never felt butterflies and I never felt overly excited to see him. I mean there are feelings there physically for sure but I am saving sex for marriage and he has a lot of experience so he always wanted to go further (he never pressured me...just always pushed the boundaries a little more each time until I reminded him. But also he was extremely jealous, and we argued a lot. There were so many cons and not a lot of pros. Also, I'm 22 and he is almost 26. He is ready to settle down and I'm still in college figuring out my life. I feel like he's in a hurry and I'm not. I definitely realized at the end of the relationship (which ended yesterday for good with NC this time) that I really do see him more as a friend. (He believes that he is in love with me and that I am "the one". I guess what I'm really wanting to get some opinions on is why its so hard for me? I got out of a relationship that wasn't going anywhere and I didn't expect to feel THIS miserable. I'm wondering if its because I do see him as a friend so its like losing someone who I was super close with for 4 solid months? Or maybe its that I'm extra sensitive to people's emotions...even more so than my own. Or maybe its just that I will miss the attention, the talking all of the time, and things like that. I just hate knowing he is so miserable right now. Help.
Amelie1980 Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 To make you feel better, you were only together 4 months, you broke up twice, you wouldnt have sex with him. it won't have devastated him to be honest. He'll be ok without you!
Author SLB1990 Posted September 15, 2013 Author Posted September 15, 2013 To make you feel better, you were only together 4 months, you broke up twice, you wouldnt have sex with him. it won't have devastated him to be honest. He'll be ok without you! That's true. Its just hard to keep that in mind when the texts I've gotten have been saying otherwise. NC has officially set in I think. Hopefully ill feel better soon.
Amelie1980 Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 That's true. Its just hard to keep that in mind when the texts I've gotten have been saying otherwise. NC has officially set in I think. Hopefully ill feel better soon. I hope my dumped feels that way. I just got dumped by someone I dated for two months. neither one of us were head over heels but you can't be that early after 5 dates. we never spoke on the phone. he was full of work stress, etc. he ended it with me in a very cowardly way....I sent him some nice texts but he wasn't replied. I hope he feels bad as you do though
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