volley Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 My ex and I have been split for a year and a couple of months. We were together for 6 yrs. When he broke up with me he started seeing someone for 8 months 3 weeks after we broke up. They were fwb until her man came back from over seas. Then they split and he asked me to hang. He mentioned to me that shes crazy, spent a lot of money going out to eat and places. She made her owm soap etc. She had ocd but the sex was good. He thought she could be a lesbian. Him and I hung out for a few days we kissed and cuddled. But when I questioned him about it he said he had a lot on his plate and he needs space so I gave it to him. My girlfriend did some fb stalking to find out he is back with this girl. I'm like really you can do so much better its like down grading yourself. You had a women me that loved u with everything I had who can gave you the world who is beautiful smart fun. Who is very nice and funny and that everyone loves even your own family.who is family oreinted etc. Like why her again when u could have came back to something a lot better. I think he's affraid to admitt that he made a mistake and he knows he hurt me. So he goes back to that. Why is it men go back to something that is down grading them. Instead of going back to someone that would give him the world and support and love uncondtionally?
TigerCub Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 My ex and I have been split for a year and a couple of months. We were together for 6 yrs. When he broke up with me he started seeing someone for 8 months 3 weeks after we broke up. They were fwb until her man came back from over seas. Then they split and he asked me to hang. He mentioned to me that shes crazy, spent a lot of money going out to eat and places. She made her owm soap etc. She had ocd but the sex was good. He thought she could be a lesbian. Him and I hung out for a few days we kissed and cuddled. But when I questioned him about it he said he had a lot on his plate and he needs space so I gave it to him. My girlfriend did some fb stalking to find out he is back with this girl. I'm like really you can do so much better its like down grading yourself. You had a women me that loved u with everything I had who can gave you the world who is beautiful smart fun. Who is very nice and funny and that everyone loves even your own family.who is family oreinted etc. Like why her again when u could have came back to something a lot better. I think he's affraid to admitt that he made a mistake and he knows he hurt me. So he goes back to that. Why is it men go back to something that is down grading them. Instead of going back to someone that would give him the world and support and love uncondtionally? What makes you so much better than this girl? So she's terrible because she likes to go out and spend money, and make her own soap? He tells you that she's crazy - does that mean it's true? Also, you're not coming off as better because you are willing to talk and chat with the ex that left you as he tells you about how sex with the rebound was great! Really? what guy does that? He doesn't want you back because if he did, then he wouldn't be telling you how f**king the girl that he had after you was so awesome. I'm sorry you're hurting, but you're giving too much and putting up with too much pain in the hope that he will one day choose to be with you again - you're even convincing yourself that he's too scared to admit that he made a mistake with you - sweetie, I really don't think that's what's going on here. Lots of guys get humble and try really hard if they made a mistake - they don't regale the gal they supposedly want back with tales of the other girl. Move on.
Author volley Posted September 15, 2013 Author Posted September 15, 2013 Tigercub, your right I need to move on. We are trying to be friends but with him tellling me stuff about his relationships after me is so wrong and hurtful.I should have said something to him at that time. I think its best to move on and go nc.
happydate Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 My ex and I have been split for a year and a couple of months. We were together for 6 yrs. When he broke up with me he started seeing someone for 8 months 3 weeks after we broke up. They were fwb until her man came back from over seas. Then they split and he asked me to hang. He mentioned to me that shes crazy, spent a lot of money going out to eat and places. She made her owm soap etc. She had ocd but the sex was good. He thought she could be a lesbian. Him and I hung out for a few days we kissed and cuddled. But when I questioned him about it he said he had a lot on his plate and he needs space so I gave it to him. My girlfriend did some fb stalking to find out he is back with this girl. I'm like really you can do so much better its like down grading yourself. You had a women me that loved u with everything I had who can gave you the world who is beautiful smart fun. Who is very nice and funny and that everyone loves even your own family.who is family oreinted etc. Like why her again when u could have came back to something a lot better. I think he's affraid to admitt that he made a mistake and he knows he hurt me. So he goes back to that. Why is it men go back to something that is down grading them. Instead of going back to someone that would give him the world and support and love uncondtionally? He is looking for casual non-commitment based relationship with the emphasis on "SEX". Despite the other girl's failings, the sex was good. So what does this tell you about sex with him and you? Isn't it not obvious what sort of message he's trying to send across to you without sounding harsh? In his case, he is looking for continued sex in a relationship and when he gets cut off from the woman in the relationship, he goes looking elsewhere. It is not hard to hook up with a girl just for sex at adultfriendfinder.com. You deserve better with another man who can be intimate with you but appreciate the unconditional loving qualities you provide!
hotpotato Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 If he wants the downgrade, let him have it. Chances are he sees something in her you or maybe even most people dont see. Maybe she does a few things better than most girls, and he likes that.
TigerCub Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 Tigercub, your right I need to move on. We are trying to be friends but with him tellling me stuff about his relationships after me is so wrong and hurtful.I should have said something to him at that time. I think its best to move on and go nc. I think what he did was hurtful and yeah it is best for you to just cut him off. The more distance you create between the two of you, the easier it will be for you to get over him and move on. You'll find much better than him...believe me.
Woggle Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 Both genders do it. For some reason people these days have an addiction to those who bring them the most drama. Don't ask me why. 1
Revolver Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 (edited) This case is different because he has you but In general? Because those guys have no options. A guy could break up with a girl then not get another woman in his life for along time. Edited September 15, 2013 by Revolver
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