Kam1190 Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 (edited) I had been dating my ex girlfriend for over 4 years until this past friday. The past 7 months or so has been very hard for me because of getting through my last semester in college and passing my nclex to be an Registered Nurse. I will admit that we had arguments almost daily that were so stupid, and i had forgotten the little things in our relationship because i was so distracted with everything. We have always talked about wanting to spend the rest of our lives together, and have children, and how we could never be with anyone else. Even two weeks ago she told me "im so tired of having to drive over each others houses, I cant wait until we have our own and can wake up to each other in the mornings and make breakfast together." On friday we went out to dinner and had a a great time. we laughed, she told me i was so cute, and asked me if i wanted to christen my car. I said hell yea! so after dinner we went and had sex and it wasn't the best because her and I were so uncomfortable. We winded up getting into a little argument about it because i was just frustrated and i just put my clothes back on. We drove back to her house in silence for 5 minutes. When we got to her house she wanted me to come inside but i said no because i was being ****ty for no reason. She begged me to come in and i said no. i finally said "i don't think this is working out." and within seconds she said "i agree, i was going to text you this a week ago." i was so upset because i didn't really want to break up with her, i just wanted to work things out. She tried to give me a hug for 15 minutes and i denied her. I finally said "get the **** out of my car" and i had never spoken to her like this before. I said and don't text me anymore. So i left her house. I couldn't even turn out of her community and i said to myself what am i doing? I turned around and came back. I texted her and told her I made a mistake and that i wanted to be with her. At this point she was furious. She kept saying "you were fine with not being with me a few minutes ago" From friday until wednesday, i blew up her phone, texting and calling her with no response at all. We have never gone more than a day before without talking. So i went to her work to see if she was there and before i even got there, i saw her driving so i caught up to her and she pulled over. When i got out of my car i was hysterical, telling her why have you not talked to me i was so worried about you. She told me that since i told her to never text me, she was just doing what i had asked. I told her that i couldn't imagine my life without her but she kept saying "i am so done, i am not doing this anymore" she wouldn't kiss me or anything. she kept saying "i just want to go, i'm stressed out, on my period, and hungry." I told her that i wrote her an 11 page letter about how i felt about us and the things i have learned. She said she didn't want it. I asked her if she meant everything she said to me the past 2 weeks, and our whole relationship and she said yes, at that time, but friday made me realize i wasn't happy. I didn't understand this because she told me on friday that "i am the only thing that makes you happy." Anyway, she has never acted like this before in the past 4 years and i am really afraid that she is really done with me. I asked her if she could ever see herself with anyone else and she said "no i am not thinking about being with anyone, i just want to be alone." the next day my best friend gave her the 11 page letter that i wrote. I have not texted her since wednesday and she hasn't texted me either because she told my friend that she wishes i would just leave her alone. I am so upset and i don't know what to do because i meant everything that i said our whole entire relationship and i cant imagine being with anyone else. if i leave her alone for a few weeks, do you think there is anything chance i could get her back? Edited September 15, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Author Kam1190 Posted September 15, 2013 Author Posted September 15, 2013 Bump.....Anyone, I am struggling here.
Amelie1980 Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 People are probably not reading your post because it is too hard. It is one big chunk of text. re post it and break it up into paragraphs. You've given her an 11 page letter, you've said enough. leave her alone.
LostOne1 Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 my advice is to not contact her.. I think both of you need some space away from each other for awhile. This is the time to just think with a clear mind but not react right away. Maybe with some time off you'll learn this relationship isn't for you. Or maybe you will learn it is worth keeping. Who knows, but right now it's clear to say you both need some time away to sort other personal problems.
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