Sheandme82 Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 What steps have you taken to fall out of love with someone? I see her everyday. Can't change that right now. She has moved on to someone else. I've gone through anger, hurt, depression...and those all masked the love and I fooled myself into believing it was gone. Recently, we decided to simply be cordial and to have peace. It would make things less hostile when we do see each other. By doing that i must admit it took pushing my pride to the side, but it is for the best. Now that I am no longer holding onto the anger, I realized I'm still in love. How do I make that go away?
Nyclovin Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 Your only hope is to not to see her. Until you accomplish that, or fall madly in love with someone new so that you couldn't care less about the ex, you're in for pain. 1
KCCK Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 if she had already move on to someone else, so should you... my ex of 2 years dump me for a rich guy after I graduated from university and was looking for a job... haha...move on and find someone else, someone better, someone who can really make you happy and appreciate you for who you are... just keep her away from your mind and life, and things will be better...
tinker683 Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 Your only hope is to not to see her. Until you accomplish that, or fall madly in love with someone new so that you couldn't care less about the ex, you're in for pain. This. You got to get away from her dude, it really is the only way
love1336x Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 You don't. The pain slowly dies down, and eventually dies. I work with my ex that I dated for 3 years. At first it was tough, but eventually I got used to it. I accepted why we didn't work. I started to date other men, and i dunno... the pain just lessen and lessen everyday... 1
supaflyz Posted September 18, 2013 Posted September 18, 2013 The answer is: You can't! You just have to let the process progress. I hope you get better soon.
loveiswar101 Posted September 18, 2013 Posted September 18, 2013 +1 Don't see her. If possible change jobs. Out of sight, out of mind..
SuperGeek Posted September 18, 2013 Posted September 18, 2013 (edited) From a male point of view: 1) no contact + time 2) if you work with her, get a new job. 3) no facebook, emails, texts, phone calls, telepathy, or smoke signals. 4) if you see her at work, keep the communication to bare minimum. "Hi", "Bye", "OK". That's all. Do not go to lunch with her. Do not give her any emotional support of any kind. Just be aloof and say nothing. One word answers until she gets the drift. Do not check up on what she's doing around the office. Just pretend she doesn't exist. 5) get laid regularly and have a fling. Why not? this is what women do. 6) do not ever show her emotion or sadness. 7) work on yourself. Getting laid and/or having a fling helped me a lot when I was forced to be around the ex in the early stages. It's hard to explain, but the fling gave me confidence that I was still desirable after being discarded by the ex. The ex was aware of my new fling too and was upset by it (even though she dumped me, go figure). Just be safe if you go this route. Edited September 18, 2013 by SuperGeek 1
Author Sheandme82 Posted September 23, 2013 Author Posted September 23, 2013 Thanks for all the advice. Looks like I have to just let it go away and not try to force it.
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