lucyiam Posted November 21, 2004 Posted November 21, 2004 Our history is; were b/f & g/f for 1-1/2 to 2 years, 10 years ago, he was separated with 3 kids, (wife cheated on him twice) decided he missed his kids and broke my heart. Well here we are both single with kids, working full time and hooking up for the past 5 months off and on. He broke up with his girlfriend of 2 years in Aug. (Said she wasn't the one). Of course we picked up right where we left off. Always have a great time together and make each other very happy. It's been a nice reunion. Great sex, as before. We both seem to be the same people as before, only older and wiser. Need some male input on translation. Several times he has said (right after sex) "I am afraid of getting my heart broke". (Hello! I just put myself right back into the lions den!) He has also said "Do you think there is someone out there for everyone to spend the rest of their life with?)" Several times (during sex) "I'll do anything you want". When he's with me, he's with me, very attentive and interested. When were apart, he doesn't return calls, or return text messages. Seems illusive or playing hard to get. (He has a great body, works out and is great looking, women flock to him). I know he's busy, as I am raising kids, but we have a great history with one another. One of his co-workers & his best friend (who we use to hang out with) approched me the other day and say he thought is was wonderful that we hooked up again, he was very happy. Do you guys just don't think responding to calls is as important as it is to women? Do I have a committ-i-phobic on my hands?
Merin Posted November 21, 2004 Posted November 21, 2004 Well I'm not a male.. sorry! HOWEVER... I don't know that this is so much a "Male translation" issue as it is.. what are YOU willing to tolerate? Whats okay with you? IMO regardless of gender.. IF the guy/girl in question isn't giving you what you need or want in the relationship, then it's a problem. Not returning phone calls or text messages again regardless of gender is rude.. and to me would suggest that this other person isn't all about the relationship.. I don't care how busy a person is.. if they are not taking the time to be in the relationship.. then it's not that important to them. Just my two cents
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