hurts2death Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 friends i am shy to say it... before i met her i was depressed and super lonely nothing was filling my life... it was just an all day drive around here and there looking for a "right" girl .. they were all seeming low iq and not for me and suddently she came from nowhere giving me the attention that you give to god i would say... i went from depression to being high 24/7 - so high that the idea of loosing her was killing me even in the relationship when everything seemed ok.... is that the reason i cant get through now?
melell Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 Yep for sure. But it depends how long you have been broken up before you can judge if you are really struggling more than others. In general, if you weren't happy before you wont be truly happy in a relationship, and you won't be happy afterwards. You have to feel make sure you feel good within yourself period. 1
Author hurts2death Posted September 15, 2013 Author Posted September 15, 2013 (edited) agree but if fall really really in love? the only you need is the other half,am i wrong here?i know it evolves in phases but a phase is like that .. yoou need to be with the other half 24/7. no? nature mating dna talks.its like you say to be cold all the way. that aint passion that is just boundaries.... those boundaries when really in love both are broken regardless what is wrong or correct....think about it..you dumped him because you didnt feeled that passion.... in my case we both were to a level where if i explain you will say omg that kind of romance doesnt exist i believe... but it is not forever...her logical brain kicked in and left me....doubt she finds it again,,Yes. You sound like the only way you can be happy is if you're with someone. You expect her to be the sole source of your happiness. I dated a guy like that. I dumped him because he was so clingy I thought I was going to suffocate. You have to like yourself and be happy on your own before you can expect someone else to be happy with you, or to make someone happy. Edited September 15, 2013 by hurts2death
Author hurts2death Posted September 15, 2013 Author Posted September 15, 2013 so now i learn that the ideal i have in my mind doesnt exist.. thank you for that... and second think i learned with our conversation is that we have to be "correct" and if we have lust we must resist it at least at a point.... makes sence....
Author hurts2death Posted September 15, 2013 Author Posted September 15, 2013 7 billion people is around the globe . we agree. BUT how many of these people pass by the 2 cities she (small ones ) she will be in and in short time.. waaaaaaayyyyyyyyyyyyyyy lessss so i still believe she wont find it. and if she does that other man will be somewhere will have a carreer and all and an ex too and he just wont give himself in for an average looking dumper....
Author hurts2death Posted September 15, 2013 Author Posted September 15, 2013 thats a reality... and the reality is she will come through roughly 50 to date i mean a single date flirt or sth.....or shrot term relationship.... i am all in she will fail i can put my hand on fire for that... nobody will give himself like a virgin holy(lol) like i did... and despite that i was so cool too nice looking full of passion (passion unlimited ) smart and active enough in business in a country of crysis.... so? yes she wont find... unless she likes to live with someone as a provider .. but not deep true pasionate love.... so in the end they will split... thats her future.... and any guy in his mind thinking serious a girl will dig her past... and dig it a lot..
PlumPrincess Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 How great can the love have been when you already call her an "average looking dumper"? This wasn't love, this was just an obsession which you needed to give your life some meaning, but it's not love. It's the pain in you that makes you say things like these, but people who lack empathy for others and are not enough in control of their negative feelings in my opinion haven't reached the level of maturity yet to understand what genuine love really means.
Author hurts2death Posted September 15, 2013 Author Posted September 15, 2013 (edited) i am not deluded .... that girl cried and begged and all over for me... i am not clingy like you think we were both close really close... lets ask everybody here wanting sth serious wont they ask why the ex became an ex after 3 years? i mean unless they dont care about the rl.... all we all want to know cause we will invest emotions and for marriage we all want to know for sure... the truth and we will dig. dig enough.... so say why..... Edited September 15, 2013 by hurts2death
Author hurts2death Posted September 15, 2013 Author Posted September 15, 2013 i can sence you in a way.... sorry to be like bad but i guess you feel empty.. i guess you think the past can be avoided but it cant... dumper is feeling less pain or not at all but dumpee is the winner in longterm.... who doesnt agree.? when the current ex told me tha her ex wanted to commit suicide after she dumped him because she got bored i lost 90% respect for her.....
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