holly25 Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 I'm asking this question because for me the answer is yes and no. I'm mixed race (Black/White). I turned out with a mix of both features of course. Pale skin, blonde hair, blue/green eyes...but ethnic everywhere else. So, for me, since I call myself Black, I'm not attracted to my race because I don't really like Black men for a number of reasons. But, I am very attracted to mixed guys for a number of reasons too so I guess I am attracted to what I am...if that makes sense. Also, am I being unreasonable or picky for desiring a mixed race guy since I am mixed race myself?
tinydancer93 Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 I don't think you're being picky. I used to wonder if I was "racist" because I was only attracted to white men, but I've realised that we can't really help who we're attracted to. I wouldn't sweat it. 3
todreaminblue Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 I dont think its racist, you liek what you like i guess....i dont have a preference for race at all, i would date a human male i was attracted to...what matters is attitude and personality.....nice eyes and a nice smile.....deb 1
kaylan Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 (edited) [sarcasm] Another black (or percentage of black) girl on LS stating how she isnt into the brothers. Woe is us. Let me put on my surprised face. [/sarcasm] Do we really need another race thread? That said, if someone isnt attracted to a particular group of people based on simple physical attraction...thats fine. But there are plenty of people who have their preferences shaped by idiotic views of a group of people. For example, if I said I wasnt attracted to Asian girls because Im not that into their "look", thats one thing. But if I said I didnt date them because of some stupid stereotype or because I generalize them based on limited personal experiences of mine...then I may look like an idiot. Edited September 15, 2013 by kaylan 2
gaius Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 I don't think there's one race from which I haven't found at least one girl attractive. I saw a black girl at a buffet a while back that I probably ogled way too long and had to run home and masturbate to. And that kind of looks alone, have to masturbate thing rarely happens to me. Maybe once a year. I usually have to talk to them for a least a few seconds. Even my grandmother dated a black dude before and she uses the N word all the time. I do think it's a little weird if you never find any black men attractive. Even if you don't want to date them for one reason or another. 1
MrCastle Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 I love everybody. I'm Puerto Rican and love my fellow Rican girls, but no more than any other group of women. There are attractive ones in every ethnicity. Never really understood people who only found one group or one physical type of person attractive. Isn't that boring? Life has given us so many different people, to only want to date one specific type seems kind of...odd? 7
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 I'm asking this question because for me the answer is yes and no. I'm mixed race (Black/White). I turned out with a mix of both features of course. Pale skin, blonde hair, blue/green eyes...but ethnic everywhere else. So, for me, since I call myself Black, I'm not attracted to my race because I don't really like Black men for a number of reasons. But, I am very attracted to mixed guys for a number of reasons too so I guess I am attracted to what I am...if that makes sense. Also, am I being unreasonable or picky for desiring a mixed race guy since I am mixed race myself? I'm a while male. While I have dated white women in the past, I prefer non-white women (specifically Asians and Latinas). So when all things are equal, I would choose the non-white. However, hot is hot and I would date a hot white girl if the situation called for it.
fanine Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 Race is not important to me at all, though I do tend to always go for men with dark hair, dark eyes. I've never really been attracted to someone who is very fair. I am very blonde and fair skinned, so I guess you would say I'm attracted to the opposite of me... 2
Faith13/2 Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 I'm asking this question because for me the answer is yes and no. I'm mixed race (Black/White). I turned out with a mix of both features of course. Pale skin, blonde hair, blue/green eyes...but ethnic everywhere else. So, for me, since I call myself Black, I'm not attracted to my race because I don't really like Black men for a number of reasons. But, I am very attracted to mixed guys for a number of reasons too so I guess I am attracted to what I am...if that makes sense. Also, am I being unreasonable or picky for desiring a mixed race guy since I am mixed race myself? I am mixed raced(white/dominican). I have more of the white features, being light skinned with green eyes. For me I have always been attracted to brown men. Not so much black, but Hispanics, Indians, etc.. I think it just comes down to what you like.. I am far from racist I just have a certain taste. Whereas I'm openly more attracted to brown men, I also would not rule out someone because of their skin tone, I just may not be physically drawn to them to begin with.
soccerrprp Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 I'm asking this question because for me the answer is yes and no. I'm mixed race (Black/White). I turned out with a mix of both features of course. Pale skin, blonde hair, blue/green eyes...but ethnic everywhere else. So, for me, since I call myself Black, I'm not attracted to my race because I don't really like Black men for a number of reasons. But, I am very attracted to mixed guys for a number of reasons too so I guess I am attracted to what I am...if that makes sense. Also, am I being unreasonable or picky for desiring a mixed race guy since I am mixed race myself? holly25, I'm of mixed heritage, so if I'm honest with myself, I stay away from identifying myself with any one particular race. I date all kinds of women (dated) b/c I can and am attracted to a type, characteristics and not the race or skin color. You have your preferences and that's okay. You are mixed and identify yourself as only "black", why? You say that you are attracted to other mixed-race guys, so you ARE attracted to those of your own race, right? Frankly, it sounds like you have a bit of an identify crisis. I've always thought that people of mixed heritage have it the most difficult in this world. We're constantly pressured to identify with one or the other "race" when we have the advantage of embracing both or all. 5
StanMusial Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 I like green girls but they're hard to find. My gf is white but when she got seasick on the boat Whoowee! It was extreme and severe love at that point. 5
Author holly25 Posted September 15, 2013 Author Posted September 15, 2013 [sarcasm] Another black (or percentage of black) girl on LS stating how she isnt into the brothers. Woe is us. Let me put on my surprised face. [/sarcasm] Do we really need another race thread? That said, if someone isnt attracted to a particular group of people based on simple physical attraction...thats fine. But there are plenty of people who have their preferences shaped by idiotic views of a group of people. For example, if I said I wasnt attracted to Asian girls because Im not that into their "look", thats one thing. But if I said I didnt date them because of some stupid stereotype or because I generalize them based on limited personal experiences of mine...then I may look like an idiot. I'm not attracted to Black men. Did I say why? Don't put words in my mouth and accept it.
Author holly25 Posted September 15, 2013 Author Posted September 15, 2013 I am mixed raced(white/dominican). I have more of the white features, being light skinned with green eyes. For me I have always been attracted to brown men. Not so much black, but Hispanics, Indians, etc.. I think it just comes down to what you like.. I am far from racist I just have a certain taste. Whereas I'm openly more attracted to brown men, I also would not rule out someone because of their skin tone, I just may not be physically drawn to them to begin with. ^^I can relate. I also don't rule anyone out. I just have a preference. 1
nescafe1982 Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 I've dated around. And don't find any reason to second guess a good man on account of his race. I can appreciate that dating someone who comes from another ethnic/cultural background can create some issues (I'm Christian and white, but have dated orthodox Jews and devout Muslims, for example), but attraction is what it is. 1
PogoStick Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 I'm only attracted to humans. I'm a speciest. 6
MrCastle Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 ^^I can relate. I also don't rule anyone out. I just have a preference. I'm not attracted to Black men. .......... 2
Woggle Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 Yes and many other races. I never discriminated based on race. 1
Author holly25 Posted September 15, 2013 Author Posted September 15, 2013 .......... Castle, I've dated Black men in the past. I lost attraction to them along the way. I know not all Black men are the same, so I don't want to completely rule them out. But generally speaking, no I am not attracted to them anymore.
MrCastle Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 Castle, I've dated Black men in the past. I lost attraction to them along the way. I know not all Black men are the same, so I don't want to completely rule them out. But generally speaking, no I am not attracted to them anymore. Not attracted for physical reasons or other reasons?
ltjg45 Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 (edited) Yes and no. Attracted to their bodies? Yeah if they actually take good care of themselves, in which there isn't a lot of black women nearby that do. Attracted to how they generally act? Hell no. I cringe every time I have to check out a black woman at my register because it is almost never a positive experience for me as an employee. I never had this kind of consistent bad experiences from other races besides immigrants who can't speak English. The most that I can see myself willing to do with a random, not-so-special black woman is sleep with her and, since her general attitude will surface long before I bed her, I doubt I would even go that far. There is a reason why I prefer my childhood to be erased from my life permanently. Edited September 15, 2013 by ltjg45
sweet_pea Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 I usually raise an eye when someone says they aren't attracted to folks of their own race. Of course, I'd have to hear why.
MissBee Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 I love everybody. I'm Puerto Rican and love my fellow Rican girls, but no more than any other group of women. There are attractive ones in every ethnicity. Never really understood people who only found one group or one physical type of person attractive. Isn't that boring? Life has given us so many different people, to only want to date one specific type seems kind of...odd? Ditto. I'm attracted to my "own race" yes, and I have preferences; however, that said, an attractive man is an attractive man and I see fine men of all persuasions. I am not exclusively attracted to my own race. I tend to have mostly dated people of similar cultural background as me (not race) but I am not only attracted to a particular race or culture where I only find my own race attractive and no one else. 2
happydate Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 I'm asking this question because for me the answer is yes and no. I'm mixed race (Black/White). I turned out with a mix of both features of course. Pale skin, blonde hair, blue/green eyes...but ethnic everywhere else. So, for me, since I call myself Black, I'm not attracted to my race because I don't really like Black men for a number of reasons. But, I am very attracted to mixed guys for a number of reasons too so I guess I am attracted to what I am...if that makes sense. Also, am I being unreasonable or picky for desiring a mixed race guy since I am mixed race myself? You are a human being living on Earth and so are Asians, Arabs, Africans, Whites and all colors and creed. That's how I look at it. I'm a visible minority myself and have dated all kinds of women and really, the only stumbling block I find is women who are religious. Christians only date Christians per se is one. However even in the 21st century, racism still exist. I've got the cold shoulders twice from white parents of the women I dated who wanted to take the next time -- marriage. As a visible minority, I sometimes get no eye contact, cold shoulders etc from their parents and then a few weeks later, I got dumped for no reasons whatsoever. The most important thing is that, you are a human being dating another human being so race shouldn't be a factor. Attitude and other personal psychology should form your base of attraction.
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