amycorr11 Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 I'll keep this short. Me and my soon to be ex were only married a little more than 4 months. Worst mistake of my life! We have no kids together, no shared property or assets, no joint bank accounts. I just want this horrible thing behind me but the state of SC says you have to be separated one year before filing a no fault divorce. I don't want this hanging over my head for a year. I'm wondering if I can just admit to cheating (I didn't when we lived together) and file based on that to get the ball rolling quicker??
M30USA Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 I'll keep this short. Me and my soon to be ex were only married a little more than 4 months. Worst mistake of my life! We have no kids together, no shared property or assets, no joint bank accounts. I just want this horrible thing behind me but the state of SC says you have to be separated one year before filing a no fault divorce. I don't want this hanging over my head for a year. I'm wondering if I can just admit to cheating (I didn't when we lived together) and file based on that to get the ball rolling quicker?? Sounds like you need to grow up and take some time off before getting involved with another man. Slow down.
Author amycorr11 Posted September 15, 2013 Author Posted September 15, 2013 Sounds like you need to grow up and take some time off before getting involved with another man. Slow down. I wanted to keep it short. The man I married had been a dear friend..albeit strictly platonic friend for over 5 years. Having come out of a long term relationship where I felt devalued and taken advantage of I decided to take a leap of faith with my friend. Understand though there is a huge difference between being someone's friend and someone's intimate partner. I married go because I thought we could be happy but not at the expense of my sanity! He had/has too many issues he neglected to tell me before the marriage and things got worse after the vows were exchanged. I had to get out quickly because the fights were escalating and I refuse to be a victim. Now I just want out of this mess! Yes I take responsibility but I shouldn't be made to suffer an entire year!
M30USA Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 Everybody has issues. If you find someone without issues, let me know. 1
trippi1432 Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 I assume that you cannot file for an annulment either since you have both consummated the marriage and lived together in the state of SC?
Author amycorr11 Posted September 15, 2013 Author Posted September 15, 2013 Everybody has issues. If you find someone without issues, let me know. With all do respect I hardly think hurling outlandish drunken accusations at your wife while she's working every weekend and he's out galavanting with 20 something's is a "little issue". Like I said I made a mistake but I'm no pushover and refuse to be part of a relationship where physical violence seems imminent. Telling me to grow up and acting like I just threw I. The towel over something g insignificant is a but pretentious and judgmental.
Author amycorr11 Posted September 15, 2013 Author Posted September 15, 2013 I assume that you cannot file for an annulment either since you have both consummated the marriage and lived together in the state of SC? No Trippi.. Unfortunately there are only a few reasons an annulment would be granted .
M30USA Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 (edited) With all do respect I hardly think hurling outlandish drunken accusations at your wife while she's working every weekend and he's out galavanting with 20 something's is a "little issue". Like I said I made a mistake but I'm no pushover and refuse to be part of a relationship where physical violence seems imminent. Telling me to grow up and acting like I just threw I. The towel over something g insignificant is a but pretentious and judgmental. It's okay. I was beaten by my ex wife, too. It sucks. Edited September 15, 2013 by M30USA
Author amycorr11 Posted September 15, 2013 Author Posted September 15, 2013 It's okay. I was beaten by my ex wife, too. It sucks. No hard feelings. Abuse be it by the wife or husband is reprehensible.. I just hate the only kind of abuse that gets taken seriously by the courts is physical. Like we have to allow ourselves to get punched/slapped or thrown against walls before we can use that as a grounds for divorce. Why let it get to that point? That's why I'm willing to admit to adultery to get this divorce over quickly. The man is financially well off and I'm not asking for a dime!!
trippi1432 Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 No Trippi.. Unfortunately there are only a few reasons an annulment would be granted . Sorry amycorr - It's not the best situation in the Bible Belt. I had to wait a year too when my exH moved in with his new woman he claimed to only know for a couple of weeks (she was his AP but he will never admit it). I know how hard it is to do that "time" when you know it's "dead". If the two of you are still living in the same home, I would suggest filing a separation to move one of you out or one of you move out. Distance is often necessary in instances where there could be any form of physical violence.
trippi1432 Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 No hard feelings. Abuse be it by the wife or husband is reprehensible.. I just hate the only kind of abuse that gets taken seriously by the courts is physical. Like we have to allow ourselves to get punched/slapped or thrown against walls before we can use that as a grounds for divorce. Why let it get to that point? That's why I'm willing to admit to adultery to get this divorce over quickly. The man is financially well off and I'm not asking for a dime!! Make sure you have a full understanding of admitting adultery to not have to do the one year separation. Make sure it doesn't mean that HE has to file to get out of the one year stipulation. Otherwise, you've just admitted to something that you didn't do and it still nets you nothing. "One can file for divorce on the grounds of adultery, habitual intoxication or physical cruelty without being separated from one’s spouse. However, at the temporary hearing, one will have to show the court solid evidence of the fault ground in order to have the court empowered to order the other spouse out of the marital home. In any action for a fault divorce, the court cannot have the hearing on the divorce until 60 days after the divorce action was filed and the court cannot issue the divorce decree until 90 days after the divorce action was filed. - See more at: http://www.gregoryforman.com/faqs/grounds-for-divorce-in-south-carolina/#sthash.IlR49NES.dpuf Just check with a lawyer to make sure if you are admitting "guilt" on these grounds, that he can't hold up the process to make it a year anyways if HE has to be the one to file on the fault of adultery.
GuyIncognito Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 Just out of curiosity, if you have nothing to divvy up, why not just leave and after a year deal with the divorce. Why will it hang over your head? Just put it out of mind for a year, file, then continue to live your life.
Author amycorr11 Posted September 15, 2013 Author Posted September 15, 2013 Just out of curiosity, if you have nothing to divvy up, why not just leave and after a year deal with the divorce. Why will it hang over your head? Just put it out of mind for a year, file, then continue to live your life. I did leave the home..July 1st when the situation got to the point where I didn't feel comfortable with my teen son being there. I realize there are a lot if consequences to what I'm asking. I just want out of this marriage ASAP but if it works better in my favor to wait out the 1 year separation that's what I'll do. I refuse to put my life on hold though...
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