JJKim Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 Hi. I'm 20 year old girl. I have a huge crush on my classmate, and this feelings started since first day. He's not really the most handsome guy around the room but I noticed him because he's so quiet and I thought he was very intelligent (which he is, because I found out later that he's a dean's lister) Now, I have this only one guy (casual) friend/classmate I know inside the room. I was introduced to him and to his other set of friends. And from that day on, I became part of their "gang", and we started hanging out and having lunch together. We became friends, and I started to get to know him better, which increased more my attraction towards him because we have so many similarities and synchronicities in our life. I also noticed that we have mirrored mannerisms. It's weird because I felt like, I could see myself in him. Also, between those times, he would playfully tease me, and we would catch ourselves looking at each other. It happened so many times, and we would just both looked down. Sometimes, he acts shy around me, like one time when I was just one seat next to him, and he still asked our guy friend to ask me if I could let him borrow my pen. So weird. I found out later that he has a girlfriend, but he seems so reserved whenever one of our friends would try to talk about her. Then after a month, I overheard (haha. because he was just sitting near me) that he and his girlfriend have a problem. I didn't mean to eavesdrop. It just happen that he was sitting near me, and I can't help but to pay attention to him. Days after, he then made obvious that he was "uninspired" lately, teasing one of our guy friends who was "inspired" that time. During the first week of August, things between the girls and guys in our gang became cold. We started having lunch apart (up to now), and we no longer hang out like we used to. Then during the early weeks of August, my crush started to openly flirt with one of my classmates. She's a quiet and sporty girl, and he started having crush on her when we played volleyball (because she was really good at it). He started caring on her, staring, etc. making his interest on her obvious, and it kills me inside. Especially that my classmates would also always tease them. It's so hard to contain.. Especially now that I feel like, she's starting to fall on him Then, I remembered, what happened to her girlfriend? Then days later, since I could no longer contain myself. I opened up to one of my girl friends. She was shocked to know that I have a crush on him. She said I was really good in hiding it. And then she told me that he's just really "like that" to girls. So I told her that this one's different because he's making an effort. And then she insisted, telling me that deep inside, he's really afraid of his girlfriend, that they've been together for two years, and they didn't break up yet. So I just stay quiet and reflected. I'm so confused. What shall I do? I am thinking, that either way, whether they broke up or not, the thing between him and our classmate is not serious. Is it okay to assume this? But even if I would assume this, I still can't bear seeing him like that to her. Should I move on?
todreaminblue Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 Yes he isnt single if he was single it would be different you dont jump on a guy who is going through problems in a relationship, you steer clear and let it end or continue of its own volition.... i am sorry i know crushes are actually not fun when that person is not for you....he is not for you he isnt available..good luck...deb....
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