Amethystic Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 I've been dating a guy for just shy of two months. We've been seeing each other a lot, agreed to exclusivity, and we've got some major lust/infatuation brain chemical action going on Problem is, I've been playing telephone tag with him all week, and I haven't spoken with him or seen him in that time. It all started last week, Sunday evening. He texted me from work to cancel a date we'd planned for Monday evening. He'd been asked to come into work. I was disappointed, but not surprised, he gets called in/works overtime a lot. Tuesday evening I got a call from him, but missed it because I was in a movie. I called him the next day (Wed) after work, no answer. From there, we started playing telephone tag. He'd call me once during the day, and I'd miss the call. I'd call him back, no answer. Lather, rinse, repeat every day up until today. It dawned on me that if we didn't text all the time, we'd probably never hear from each other. Yep, the majority of our communication (when we aren't together) is via texting. Now, he's unreachable, but to be fair, I haven't been easy to get hold of either. At the risk of sounding high maintenance, I think that if he really wanted to get in touch with me, he'd make more of an effort. I don't want to keep holding out hope and playing telephone tag with someone who's no longer interested in me. Thoughts?
Dallers Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 Goodness gracious telephone tag....and now you cannot get hold of him but think that he should make more of an effort to get hold of you?! Sadly games do not work on all men, men like me. You probably have not heard from him because he walked the plank after a week of trying to get hold of you and not being able to. Yes you called him back but if he was busy when you called and then you just ignored his calls he probably got fed up and gave up. If you really liked this guy then this was just a waste of time and you cannot take that risk. I remember one time this girl was playing games with me and after 2 days of games I bumped straight into an amazing girl who I went on to be with for 2 years. The other girl chased me for a while after but the moment was well gone once I met this other girl. What could have been probably something special if I had got past the games, ended up in being nothing at all. Why risk it?!
soccerrprp Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 I've been dating a guy for just shy of two months. We've been seeing each other a lot, agreed to exclusivity, and we've got some major lust/infatuation brain chemical action going on Problem is, I've been playing telephone tag with him all week, and I haven't spoken with him or seen him in that time. It all started last week, Sunday evening. He texted me from work to cancel a date we'd planned for Monday evening. He'd been asked to come into work. I was disappointed, but not surprised, he gets called in/works overtime a lot. Tuesday evening I got a call from him, but missed it because I was in a movie. I called him the next day (Wed) after work, no answer. From there, we started playing telephone tag. He'd call me once during the day, and I'd miss the call. I'd call him back, no answer. Lather, rinse, repeat every day up until today. It dawned on me that if we didn't text all the time, we'd probably never hear from each other. Yep, the majority of our communication (when we aren't together) is via texting. Now, he's unreachable, but to be fair, I haven't been easy to get hold of either. At the risk of sounding high maintenance, I think that if he really wanted to get in touch with me, he'd make more of an effort. I don't want to keep holding out hope and playing telephone tag with someone who's no longer interested in me. Thoughts? Not certain if this guy is really interested in you, but this can be solved by leaving a fricken' message and giving the person an idea when it's a good time to call. 1
Author Amethystic Posted September 14, 2013 Author Posted September 14, 2013 Sadly games do not work on all men, men like me. You probably have not heard from him because he walked the plank after a week of trying to get hold of you and not being able to. Yes you called him back but if he was busy when you called and then you just ignored his calls he probably got fed up and gave up. No games here. Our typical MO was to communicate via text. Now that I can't text, we can't seem to catch up. I'll have my phone sorted in a few days, but it's a little strange that our relationship has come to a screeching halt because we can't text.
heartshaped Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 To be fair, communication works both ways. It just seems that neither of you are available when the other is available. I feel like if he wasn't interested he would not keep calling. I wouldn't give up, but I would try to arrange more reliable communication.
Author Amethystic Posted September 15, 2013 Author Posted September 15, 2013 Not certain if this guy is really interested in you, but this can be solved by leaving a fricken' message and giving the person an idea when it's a good time to call. DOH. Sometimes the best solutions are the most simple ones. I never thought to try and "arrange" a time to talk via voicemail, but I'm going to do that. Up until now, I haven't used voicemail in so long, I pretty much forgot it exists.
Author Amethystic Posted September 15, 2013 Author Posted September 15, 2013 I forgot to mention in the original post that I accidentally broke my phone on Monday, which is why I haven't been able to text him.
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