beauty0815 Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 How do you feel about this ? Is there any loopholes , the time frame ( 3 years ago , if it was a h.s. relationship) ? What if your friend only kissed this person but never had sex with the person Would it be fair game ?What if your friend treated that person badly and it disnt work out would it be okay then? is it best to follow your heart then to care about your friends feelings? What's your take on it my take on it that if you are a CLOSE friend of mine dating any of my exes is a no no absolutely. I am asking this question because a boy I use to have a crush in in high school and actually ended up dating is now in a relationship with one of my close friends . I've known her since elementary . Yes she knew how I've felt about him and everything about us dating . Me and him never had sexual inter course but we did make out. Basically she is saying since it was so long ago he's fair game and she doesn't feel bad about me being upset because it didn't get to serious with us and it was years ago. I feel as though as a fried you don't cross that line with another friend there's too much men in the world to date someone your fried dated . And even though he wasn't my boyfriend when he talked to me after i found out old feelings were brought out again and he told me he thinks he's making a mistake with her he wants me back and he still cares for me. I don't believe I'm wrong for the way I feel I feel that she wrong for her not caring about my feelings about the whole thing and trying any chance to put it in my face on social networks and also when we talked about it . How would you feel ? Am I wrong for being upset ?
Dallers Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 Bro's before hoe's. Ask your mate first. It does not matter how far I had gone with her if any of mates who is a real man came to me and said look, I like your ex. Is it cool. I would tell him to knock himself out. What do I care, she is my past. It is a courtesy thing more than needing permission.
Author beauty0815 Posted September 14, 2013 Author Posted September 14, 2013 Funny thing is I FOUND OUT she didn't tell me . She posted a picture on a social network and that's how I found out then when I confronted we about it she claimed she forgot that I told her about me and him. Plus she telling me it doesn't matter they already kissed but he said they didn't .
nescafe1982 Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 I think the answer to this question is always "well, how does the friend who had him first feel about it?" Meaning, if you were cool with her seeing him, then it would be fine. But if you're not cool with it, it's not cool for her to do it. I don't think there is a hard and fast rule about when it's okay and when it isn't. It's all about whether it would damage the friendship you have with someone. You don't seem to be very happy about it. If you've communicated that to your friend already, it's now up to her to decide whether she values her friendship with you or a potential romance with him more. 1
pyramid Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 It is totally dependent on the situation (I'm currently dating a guy that a friend used to date - she thought we would be a great match, and introduced us). If you aren't ok with it, though... she doesn't sound like a very nice friend.
truth_seeker Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 If there is a discussion with friends about it before anything happens then it's okay, as everyone is on the same page. If things are done secretly behind people's backs then that's where you run into trouble.
Author beauty0815 Posted September 15, 2013 Author Posted September 15, 2013 It was done behind my back and she said she forgot because me and him talked so long ago . She knows I'm not okay with it I have told her numerous times but she keeps saying it wasn't serious with us so I shouldn't mind which I feel is BULL**** !
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