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Let's be honest. If you want an attractive girlfriend, you need to steal her.

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MomsSpaghetti Established Member

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Attractive women are almost never single. You're going to have to engage in some mate poaching. Nothing wrong with that as long as she's not married.

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:confused:

 

False.

 

There are lots of attractive single women...as dating is a two way street and not because you're attractive means you want to be with the people who may approach you, likewise lots more goes into relationships besides thinking someone is hot, so if someone isn't completely shallow, then there are many legit reason why attractive people are single.

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Misfortune Established Member

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There are attractive single and taken people. Some people just don't have the confidence to approach single people so they prey on others gf/wives/bf/husbands. Taken people seem more attractive because people always want what they can't/shouldn't have.

 

Most taken people are easier to prey on, you just have to catch them in one of there "I dislike my spouse" moments. Some head nods here and a bit of "I understand. I would never do that" and you got yourself a "soulmate".

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In all my dating years I have dated all attractive women, not only considered attractive by me but by others as well, easy on the eyes... I have never taken or dated another person's girl, they were all single and not dating anyone seriously.

 

I think if a guy steals another guys girl he is going to get his dues, it will manifest itself in the fact that she wasn't over the other guy etc etc...

 

Best to keep your eye on the single ones, less effort and drama will be needed to be happy.

Pompeii Established Member

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Attractive women are almost never single. You're going to have to engage in some mate poaching. Nothing wrong with that as long as she's not married.

 

Good luck with that. A guy who has never even had a girlfriend will unlikely have little luck "mate poaching".

 

I have found that most attractive women who are taken are usually the more well rounded ones and better ones to be around. If she's "single", she usually has a FWB anyway. Most women aren't single.

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Good luck with that. A guy who has never even had a girlfriend will unlikely have little luck "mate poaching".

 

I have found that most attractive women who are taken are usually the more well rounded ones and better ones to be around. If she's "single", she usually has a FWB anyway. Most women aren't single.

 

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You can be sure that every woman is having sex with someone (even the princesses of LS that will swear up and down that this isn't true).

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MomsSpaghetti Established Member

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There are lots of attractive single women

 

All the attractive women I've ever met were in a relationship, or just out of one and narrowing down the pool of suitors that they already had lined up while they were in the previous relationship

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All the attractive women I've ever met were in a relationship, or just out of one and narrowing down the pool of suitors that they already had lined up while they were in the previous relationship

 

 

I guess you don't get around much.

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Phoe Established Member

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I consider myself reasonable in the attractiveness department (I'm not a bloody troll), and I'm perpetually single.

 

There's no one to steal me from. Nor do I even need to be purchased. I'm free and available to have for the guy that takes an interest!

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You can be sure that every woman is having sex with someone (even the princesses of LS that will swear up and down that this isn't true).

 

:rolleyes:

I'm certainly not having sex with someone. If I'm not in a relationship, I'm not having sex. Just the way it is.

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MissBee Established Member

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I'm certainly not having sex with someone. If I'm not in a relationship, I'm not having sex. Just the way it is.

 

Ditto.

 

I don't see why this is so hard to believe. Many women are not indiscriminate about sex, it's not unbelievable. There is more to life than sex and when I'm not seeing anyone I am not out having sex just because I can.

 

I also don't see why we would need to lie about this, as I've admitted to much worse on LS :rolleyes:.

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Phoe Established Member

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Ditto.

 

I don't see why this is so hard to believe. Many women are not indiscriminate about sex, it's not unbelievable. There is more to life than sex and when I'm not seeing anyone I am not out having sex just because I can.

 

I also don't see why we would need to lie about this, as I've admitted to much worse on LS :rolleyes:.

 

Yeah, I don't understand it at all.

 

 

I just am not a fan of random sex. I like to know a person. and with FWB situations, I did it once, and ended up having feelings for the guy. I will never do that again, its just trouble.

 

 

I am a sexual person but don't NEEEEED it that bad that I can't just masturbate until I am in a relationship.

 

 

And of the accusation of lying about it aand swearing up and down it isn't true - YEP. Of all the things I've admitted on this forum, of all the embarassing things I've fessed up about, why would I lie about whether or not I'm having sex right now? lol. If I was having sex I'd just say it. "Yep, I've got a dude I'm having sex with" - no reason to hide that. :p

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Er, that is probably the most incorrect thing ever.

 

My bff is THE most beautiful girl I have ever seen. And men know it too. She is constantly hit on, flirted with and checked out. And she has never dated. Her standards are high, and she chooses to be single until the right guy will come along. Mind you, she's also smart, and loves to do things like go rock climbing, camping, hiking, canoeing, you name it.

 

I get hit on a lot too. I've been told my looks are 9/10. I have had one R and so far I'm single and loving it. Not planning on dating anyone in my life right now. Some people are single because simply no one wants to date them (they probably have issues, maybe they're cray). Some people are single because while they have options, they're waiting for the best option. People can CHOOSE to be single by their own volition. Not because no one shows an interest in them. Attractive people are people too, they can choose to be single if they're not happy with their choices right now.

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Er, that is probably the most incorrect thing ever.

 

My bff is THE most beautiful girl I have ever seen. And men know it too. She is constantly hit on, flirted with and checked out. And she has never dated. Her standards are high, and she chooses to be single until the right guy will come along. Mind you, she's also smart, and loves to do things like go rock climbing, camping, hiking, canoeing, you name it.

 

I get hit on a lot too. I've been told my looks are 9/10. I have had one R and so far I'm single and loving it. Not planning on dating anyone in my life right now. Some people are single because simply no one wants to date them (they probably have issues, maybe they're cray). Some people are single because while they have options, they're waiting for the best option. People can CHOOSE to be single by their own volition. Not because no one shows an interest in them. Attractive people are people too, they can choose to be single if they're not happy with their choices right now.

 

 

I too have a friend who is gorgeous! She models professionally, but she is actually very socially awkward and shy and led a very sheltered life that still affects her now into adulthood. That said, while she is beautiful, she is 24 and still a virgin and doesn't date a lot.

 

It is too simplistic to believe all beautiful women or attractive men will be in a relationship simply because they are attractive, as that is not the only factor which influences whether you're single or not.

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Pompeii Established Member

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Er, that is probably the most incorrect thing ever.

 

My bff is THE most beautiful girl I have ever seen. And men know it too. She is constantly hit on, flirted with and checked out. And she has never dated. Her standards are high, and she chooses to be single until the right guy will come along. Mind you, she's also smart, and loves to do things like go rock climbing, camping, hiking, canoeing, you name it.

 

Right guy: six figure salary, 6+ foot, aesthetic, looks like Zeus reincarnated, will only pay attention to her.

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Attractive women are almost never single. You're going to have to engage in some mate poaching. Nothing wrong with that as long as she's not married.

 

Not true, not by a long shot.

 

I tell you what. I've been mistreated and dumped on by the same men who say I'm so hot and beautiful. They have left me for average girls, the last time the girl was the ghetto fab version of of myself. The last bf said I was 'intimidating.'

 

It's not uncommon for me to be single for years. I dont date to date. I only date when I think I've found someone compatible.

 

I could go online and get some male attention, but most of the time when a guy approaches me he is not serious. At all. I have spent most of my life ignored by men. I remember Bar Rafaeli saying something similar.

 

Really, a woman only needs to be average to attract a man.

 

I think you feel like a hot woman automatically has everything on a silver platter because she looks good.

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MomsSpaghetti Established Member

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It is too simplistic to believe all beautiful women or attractive men will be in a relationship simply because they are attractive, as that is not the only factor which influences whether you're single or not.

 

I didn't say that was the only factor. Look, if I scroll through my Facebook list of friends and pick out which ones of them I think are attractive, they'll all have boyfriends or be married.

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I didn't say that was the only factor. Look, if I scroll through my Facebook list of friends and pick out which ones of them I think are attractive, they'll all have boyfriends or be married.

 

 

All this proves is the only attractive women you know are taken.

 

Is it also the case that every time you approach a girl, she tells you she has a boyfriend already? Even when you're in a place where people only go to meet people of the opposite sex?

 

OP, you're SunDevil right.

 

Let me guess, you think the attractive women are always taken because the only attractive women to show anything kindness to you are the taken women. But it's probably because they are just being nice and think you wouldn't get any ideas since they are obviously taken.

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How you get them is how you lose them.

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There's no one to steal me from. Nor do I even need to be purchased. I'm free and available to have for the guy that takes an interest!

 

Forgive me for being blunt but that simply cannot be true. What you mean to say is that any man who meets the hundred or so expectations that you have, on sight, who takes an interest, and then who meets most of your additional preconditioned expectations, in addition "hopefully" to being a good match.

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If a woman isn't wearing a ring she's fair game. That's why we have the tradition of wearing a ring - a line of demarcation. I don't see the problem with chasing a woman just because she actively dates someone.

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I don't see why this is so hard to believe.

 

Yeah, I don't understand it at all

 

The reason this is a mystery is likely that you don't understand the sex drive that many or most men have. In my experience, it is almost beyond the comprehension of many women. That is why men are generally judged so harshly. There is no common frame of reference.

 

For me, "I can just masturbate" was never even an option if real sex was available. Many of us men would never ever, ever, have that thought.

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All this proves is the only attractive women you know are taken.

Is it also the case that every time you approach a girl, she tells you she has a boyfriend already? Even when you're in a place where people only go to meet people of the opposite sex?

 

OP, you're SunDevil right.

 

Let me guess, you think the attractive women are always taken because the only attractive women to show anything kindness to you are the taken women. But it's probably because they are just being nice and think you wouldn't get any ideas since they are obviously taken.

 

Guilty...my default is to tell men I'm uninterested in that I have a boyfriend. :o

Phoe Established Member

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Forgive me for being blunt but that simply cannot be true. What you mean to say is that any man who meets the hundred or so expectations that you have, on sight, who takes an interest, and then who meets most of your additional preconditioned expectations, in addition "hopefully" to being a good match.

 

I do not have hundreds of expectations, that's ridiculous. If I listed all my expectations they would probably be less than 10.

 

 

ANY reasonable guy has a chance with me. Of all the guys who've ever asked me on a date, I've only rejected 2. One because I was already taken, one because he asked me out in a VERY rude and innapropriate way.

 

 

I am not unreasonable with my expectations. Any normal guy has a chance. Most guys don't bother to even ask me out to GET that chance though. That's my problem.

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