supergoober752 Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 (edited) Hey everyone, Im 22 Ex-Girlfreind 20 My story: 1 month ago my girlfriend and i went through a REALLY bad break up. cussing, yelling, etc. Prior to this official break up we have been together for 2.5 years and only fought over small stuff (me going to the bars with my friends every once and awhile and drinking.) We went to a concert last month and she was hanging out with shaddy people i had a problem with. I confronted her and she gave me the trust talk, i said if you leave to go hang out with them were over. And she did. Anyway, that made for one awkward drive home. One week after that she began seeing this guy who is a pro wakeboarder and has the 8 pack abs. Her best friend at the time was seeing him and she kind of stole him away. I tried to get closure that same week on the phone and it was just how much of a bad person i am and how her new boyfriend knows how to treat a girl, buys her anything she wants and just how fast she got over me and can see herself marrying this guy. Fast forward one month to now. She changed her membership to drive 30 minutes to work out with him everyday, however, for the last 2 days she has come back to my gym (5 minutes away) and goes the exact same time i go, only for about 30 minutes which isnt even a workout. Her new boyfriend is the same age as her and i dont see him going anywhere in life (community college drop out) but from what ive herd hes a boring guy, just really attractive. My question is, if she wanted to be happy with this guy and what not, why is she even bothering coming around when she can just avoid my gym completely. She doesnt even get a good workout in and she goes right before work......... We also play the avoidance game, no eye contact and pretend like we both dont exist. Its very confusing to me. I stopped looking at her social networks for my own sake so i dont know whats going on with her and her new boyfriend but i imagine their happy. 2 weeks before i stopped looking, it was how she wished she could fall asleep next to him and how there isnt enough hours in the day to spend with him. Anytime our mutual friends bring my name up she also changes the subject really quickly. Any information is valuable Thanks! Edited September 14, 2013 by supergoober752
Philosoraptor Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 Sounds like a lot of controlling and insecurity in this relationship. Anyways, if you are trying to get over her don't worry about why she does anything. Just live your life and stop focusing on her.
melell Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 His life isn't going well BUT he is a professional wakeboarder? Anyway, honestly, if someone told me 'you hang out with them and it is over' I would go. You really cant approach people like that and expect a good response. The above poster pointed the problem out perfectly. I think breaking up is pretty much inevitable if the relationship isn't healthy. To answer your question, she is likely at your gym to see you. But think about it.
lauri Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 She is at the gym to most likely see you. I would continue to just ignore her and try to keep focusing on yourself 1
todreaminblue Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 the thing about her not wanting others to talk about you so she changes the subject.....she thinks about you a lot and is trying not to maybe...as other posters have said concentrate on you she is with another....deb 1
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