dwduck Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 First I would like to say sorry if this don't make sense.Back in July my fiancé broke up with me over me once again moaning she not helping me with the money as I was in total charge of it. To be honest it was turning me into a control freak I was also working to hard and not showing her that I loved her even leaving her with all 4 kids to go out to work I no this was wrong now but at time thought I was working for my family. We had been together since she was 19 I was 27 we have a child of 6 years old I also have 3 children to an other ex which she was brilliant with but I did not always let her no. Right now im still in family home with ex as I don't have the money to get rented property as just before she broke it of we spent r money on a holiday I have until 14 October to get out we are now on friendly terms but for first while I was begging for her to take me back now understanding that this does not work I have told her I accept we are over and that I will be out by 14 oct but have said to her after nc I want to stay friends and help with child I want to show her I have changed now that money not in my control she says I have about 1% chance of ever getting her back what do I do I love her so much she feels that she has missed out in life for having child young but says she would not change it for the world. While im still in the house she is still cooking for me and washing my clothes says she cares for me as Childs father but does not love me anymore
hurts2death Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 two wifes and in love with one . some big heart you have man..
Author dwduck Posted September 14, 2013 Author Posted September 14, 2013 sounds bad but I have never been married 1st gf was years ago we ended on good terms the 1 now I thought I was going to marry and spend rest of my life with
Author dwduck Posted September 15, 2013 Author Posted September 15, 2013 bump please someone help me with this
GuyIncognito Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 She is young and wants to go experience life and see what else there is in the world. Is it any surprise that a 25 year old woman isn't excited about spending the next 20 years of her life looking after 4 kids? It seems crazy to me that you ever thought someone so young could handle that much. That can be overwhelming for anyone, especially a young mother. You expect her to be a caretaker and provide money? How? That's so much pressure for one person. If you do want to win her back, you need to convince her that the rest of her life won't be exactly the same as the past year has been. What would she want to do with her life if she wasn't looking after children? Do you even know? Does she want to go to school? Travel? Live on a farm? Make art? Show her that you care about her dreams and passions and are willing to work towards a place where she can follow them and not be stuck with your kids all the time. Then you MIGHT have a chance. Alleviate some of the pressure and prove that you are invested in her living a full, satisfying life and not just being there for you. Good luck. 2
Author dwduck Posted September 15, 2013 Author Posted September 15, 2013 i have spoke to her about this the strange thing is she wants to be a child minder from home she did not have 4 kids all the time to look after it was every other weekend but are. 1 together nearly every day i no she needs a break from all this and i want to give her that im moving out but i want to win her back and to change it all she has said she don't no how she will feel in 6 months wants to stay friends and take r child out places together. she also wants to stay in other kids lifes
Author dwduck Posted September 16, 2013 Author Posted September 16, 2013 when she saying that's be friends and do things with child together and in 6 months time i might feel different is she just keeping me hanging on or looking to c if i will change
Author dwduck Posted September 16, 2013 Author Posted September 16, 2013 i need out of this house its killing me seeing her now i can't even earn money as someone crashed into me
Author dwduck Posted September 16, 2013 Author Posted September 16, 2013 i need out of this house its killing me seeing her now i can't even earn money as someone crashed into me
Author dwduck Posted September 17, 2013 Author Posted September 17, 2013 we had a talk today after saying before she don't need or want me to make her happy she is now saying she still no need me to make her i happy which i understand but after i have moved out i can try and make her happy plus after reading my first post i was not asking her to go earn money i was asking her to help with the bills in just and knowing what has to be paid and when as she took nothing to do with it i was left with it andwwworking ee
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