MissingHerBad Posted November 21, 2004 Posted November 21, 2004 So hear it is...My ex (1 month 3 weeks ago) of 1.5years has a new boyfriend. The street sais boyfriend she sais she is seeing someone. Either way its a killer. Just this past week she came on line and acted real jealous with me and was very emotional and missing me. She seems to be very confused but after finding out I wrote called her she tried to lie then told me and got mad. She then wrote me an email. It wasnt very nice. She talked about how I treated her and how she doesnt understand why she hung on for so long. She also said that my life is none of her business and that she is no longer mine. I guess it is trully over. This just goes to show for people that do have some sort of hope...It aint worth it...It just aint worth it. I tusted this person with all my feelings and whether she has feelings about me or not there just not strong enough for her not to walk all over me. I still feel like this is wrong but theres nothing left to be said. I feel like she did lead me on and it hurts. Ive tried to be real good over all this and it seems she just wants to be mad at me. Has anyone had similar scenarios. Can someone not tell me exactly what to do and swear at me while doing it. I was seriously coming around the corner...seeing the light and then the breif msn convo and now today. Its awful. How can she be so cold....is this the person I knew or was the cotton pulled over my eye all this time. People said this girl was bad news but to me she was beautiful and nice. She is a very complex, emotional person. I just wish I could move on. It hurts so much to think about her nbeing with another guy.
Weird Posted November 21, 2004 Posted November 21, 2004 screw her wasn't she the one who came to your DJ gigs and tried to make you jealous?
Author MissingHerBad Posted November 21, 2004 Author Posted November 21, 2004 she was terribly jealous of me being a dj. She ****ed with my head bro!
moon Posted November 21, 2004 Posted November 21, 2004 I know that feeling and it sucks. But be thankful you had almost two months to get used to the idea that you were not going to be together anymore. My ex found somebody during our relationship, decided he liked her better and then left me for her. Well.....it was more complicated than that (we had our problems anyway)---but it literally feels like a knife is being stuck right inside your gut. It really kills. And there was nothing I could do about it. But your ex sounds like maybe she is just trying to get a rise out of you. She is telling you that she misses you, etc. and then she splits with another guy. I think all you can really do right now is play it cool. Don't contact her and if she really misses you she'll be back. But maybe when she does come back you will realize that she is not at all what you wanted. But people who other people call "bad news" are usually given that rep for a reason. My ex was labled "bad news" in a sense by many people. I heard all the stories about what he's done to this or that ex girlfriend.. But I still stayed with him. I think the only satisfaction I got when this thing all hit, was being able to tell him that this was his relationship pattern....not mine. He was used to dodging and ditching in the end. I told him I was comfortable with the fact that his next relationship would blow up in fire just like our did....after four years of knowing each other. It sucks. There is no two ways about it. It hurts. Good luck with your recovery. Try to keep yourself busy. I'd avoid any type of scene if you don't want to be dealing with regret and embarrassment--like I am going through right now. Well, I don't regret it exactly, but I called my ex very viscious names after we broke up and I doubt he'll ever come calling again. I think he's actually scared of me! I don't know he thought I had it in me to defend myself like I did when I heard the news. Well, good riddance to him. I hope your ex realizes she is playing major mind games with you and stopes. But if I were you I'd play it cool, don't show your hand......don't contact her and she'll probably run back one day....but like I said, if she doesn't you might not be so bad afterall.
Author MissingHerBad Posted November 21, 2004 Author Posted November 21, 2004 Im hearing now that some people thinks she is crazy. I might no necessarily disagree. I think she has turned so resentful towards me that this might be her getting back. But who knows forsure. Whenever I back off she will miss me but she wont contact me. She truly feels we werent meant to be
Weird Posted November 21, 2004 Posted November 21, 2004 Yeah I remember reading all the posts about her fuggin with your head while you were DJing. Screw her She has changed and you need to see she is a shell of her former self. She ain't the same girl that you knew and fell in love with. I know all about that (my ex is totally diff now) and while it does suck and is depressing to see someone you loved become a different person, it is the sad reality in this messed up world. All I know is I hope a great girl comes along for you that won't screw with your emotions and is stable and won't change for the worse. You are a good guy and deserve it, son.
Author MissingHerBad Posted November 21, 2004 Author Posted November 21, 2004 Werd! I like that...heres to hoping.
mj108 Posted November 21, 2004 Posted November 21, 2004 MissingHerBad---I'm sorry you're going through heartbreak. It hurts & I know you're asking "Why?" I believe this guy is probably a rebound thing for her & she's trying to make you jealous. I don't understand why people are this way but if someone told you she is bad news...well, apparently she is. I'm kinda in moons situation. I talked to my ex but I doubt he will call me. I didn't name call (but I did have it in the back of my mind) but I was hurt to where I did raise my voice. I mean, who wouldn't when someone calls you up one day & tells you that they are leaving you for someone else? No warning...JUST BAM! So, I do feel your pain & I hate that you're going through something like this but I do agree with Moon & Weird...no contact. She will contact you one day when she's tired of the loser & then that's when you will have to make your decision if you want her back or not.
Author MissingHerBad Posted November 22, 2004 Author Posted November 22, 2004 MJ Yes, the name calling is in the back of my head...lol but I have tried to be really nice about this, sometimes a little emotional but nice. If she is got a new guy then Im ****ed and the no contact begins with no choice. I would have never expected any of this from her. Its to bad. Props to you guys for being able to remain strong. I have been fine all my life but this has put me to the curb, in ways that are only imaginable yet she still thinks what she thinks.
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