beckaboo84 Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 I have been seeing this guy for 7 months and I love him. He says he loves me and he can see us together as husband and wife. We can talk for hours and I feel like I can tell him anything, but it has been different lately. He is younger than me by a year. I don't have a problem with that, but I can still see the immature mentality he has at times. The issue is, I feel alone in the relationship now. For the past month, we haven't talked like we usually do. I don't see him as much as I use to. He claims he is always tired and I understood because he works 12 hour shifts. When I tell him I miss him or I love him, he either doesn't respond or he gives me some off the wall response like how's your day going. I'm very understanding, but I am not naive. I'm very busy myself with two jobs and school, but I always find the time to text him or respond to him. That’s my love, so of course I'll make sure I give him the attention he deserves...but the same isn't being reciprocated to me. That is why I am here asking for advice. I think he doesn't have the same feelings for me anymore. I just feel like if he really loved me and cared than he would find the time to text me back or come see me. He text me the other night and said he was going to send me flowers, but he decided not to because he didn't know how I would react. Of course I thought...you are full of it. I told him I would have loved them, thinking that maybe he will just send them now that he knows how I would react. I thought wrong. I never received flowers and I haven't heard from him since that night, which was 2 days ago. I try not to think negative, but I can't help it. I've learned from last relationship and I am trying not to bring the baggage into this new one. So can someone help? I am all eyes!
Brown-Eyez Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 sorry for your pain & worry what i've learned VERY CLEARLY is that in these instances its better just to pull back everybody on here, keeps saying 'actions speak loudest' his NON-action is telling you something.. I read somewhere else that in relationships (esp in the 1st yr) its best to mirror whatever he does, so if he takes 2 days to text you back you do the same silly stupid game I know, but sometimes technique helps protect our heart & soul let us know how it goes for you
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