beckaboo84 Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 I have been seeing this guy for 7 months and I love him. He says he loves me and he can see us together as husband and wife. We can talk for hours and I feel like I can tell him anything, but it has been different lately. He is younger than me by a year. I don't have a problem with that, but I can still see the immature mentality he has at times. The issue is, I feel alone in the relationship now. For the past month, we haven't talked like we usually do. I don't see him as much as I use to. He claims he is always tired and I understood because he works 12 hour shifts. When I tell him I miss him or I love him, he either doesn't respond or he gives me some off the wall response like how's your day going. I'm very understanding, but I am not naive. I'm very busy myself with two jobs and school, but I always find the time to text him or respond to him. That’s my love, so of course I'll make sure I give him the attention he deserves...but the same isn't being reciprocated to me. That is why I am here asking for advice. I think he doesn't have the same feelings for me anymore. I just feel like if he really loved me and cared than he would find the time to text me back or come see me. He text me the other night and said he was going to send me flowers, but he decided not to because he didn't know how I would react. Of course I thought...you are full of it. I told him I would have loved them, thinking that maybe he will just send them now that he knows how I would react. I thought wrong. I never received flowers and I haven't heard from him since that night, which was 2 days ago. I try not to think negative, but I can't help it. I've learned from last relationship and I am trying not to bring the baggage into this new one. So can someone help? I am all eyes!
Mcscooter Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 This sounds familiar from my situation. I've experienced both sides. I fell out of love, so I didn't really socialized with the person I was dating. If I did I made it seem like I wasn't interested and I seldom said I loved her. I finally manned up and broke it off. I than started to realize how great she actually was so I begged so hard for her and yes I got what I wanted, but I had to fight for it. 3 years down the road. It has seem, what comes around goes around. She starts talking to me less and she even mentioned I was annoying her. When I barely talked to her. So I was lost for a bit, but I came to realize she was falling out of love. All what you did. I did and also is what my ex did. So you can see it all adding up. I'm just sharing my experience I don't totally know what your story is. I was in the military, so I barely had time. I made so much effort just to talk to her. It's not that hard to call someone and talk to them for a minute or text you love them. I knew she wasn't putting effort in. I couldn't save the relationship. Whats the point of a relationship when you try and the other person doesn't. it's a relationsh*t is what.
Author beckaboo84 Posted September 14, 2013 Author Posted September 14, 2013 I never get the chance to see him to show my feelings as much I want to. But when I see him...I cook for him and I am very affectionate with him. Usually when I do care for a guy, I buy them things. I really do spoil the men that I am with, however I didn't do that this time because I don't want to end up being used. So, I sit back to see what a man will do for me first and than I go from there. So, while I get what you are saying 912...I just feel like I've always made myself available to him even when he stood me up. I still talk talk to him after all the obstacles and if that isn't love...than I don't know what is.
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