Jjacko Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 Why do men want to keep a girl around and keep them interested when they have said they are not ready mentally and emotionally for a relationship, and do not even want a friends with benefits situation? This guy I like, I know he likes me, but due to exs really hurting him he's scared of getting hurt again. He says he likes me, but isn't ready, but seems to try and keep me interested when I see him. Also I changed my mobile number a month ago, and text him my new number, but also kept my old number. I saw him weeks later, and made out he hadn't received my new number, and that he had been sending me messages to my old number (which he hadnt been doing). Why is he trying to keep me around and interested and seemingly trying to show me he still likes me if he isn't ready for anything with me???
Balzac Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 The real question is why are YOU hanging around? He told you he's not available. Do you enjoy his game? 1
Dallers Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 Bulls*it Alert! Bulls*it Alert! A man does not like you and claims he does not want anything more than sex because he has been hurt by an ex. This translates to: I want to keep my options open as this girl could be a regular sh*g for me without the need to actually show any real interest because I do not like her like that. How are people still falling for this?! Stay well clear.
Author Jjacko Posted September 14, 2013 Author Posted September 14, 2013 This guy actually says he DOES like me, he just isn't ready yet! He does NOT even want just sex! He's not a t**t like most men. Everything he does screams he wants to keep me around and interested - WHY???? I'm not waiting, just being his friend and giving him space to decide what he really wants n to get his head together!
Dallers Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 How do you know he is not like most men? Just because what he says? How do you know he does not want sex and isn't just ready yet? You don't, only he knows what he wants. Men who really like a girl do not give a sh*t about past experiences with ex's we will always be willing to get hurt again if she is the right girl. Otherwise we are either playing games or not interested. We are not as complicated as you think.
truth_seeker Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 Bulls*it Alert! Bulls*it Alert! A man does not like you and claims he does not want anything more than sex because he has been hurt by an ex. This translates to: I want to keep my options open as this girl could be a regular sh*g for me without the need to actually show any real interest because I do not like her like that. How are people still falling for this?! Stay well clear. Women do this, too
truth_seeker Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 How do you know he is not like most men? Just because what he says? How do you know he does not want sex and isn't just ready yet? You don't, only he knows what he wants. Men who really like a girl do not give a sh*t about past experiences with ex's we will always be willing to get hurt again if she is the right girl. Otherwise we are either playing games or not interested. We are not as complicated as you think. Dallers is on fire today! Listen to Dallers. He's right. I liked a girl a lot but once I got wind of her history I backed off. Changed my opinion of her. If I really liked her, I would have neglected her past and liked her regardless.
Dallers Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 Dallers is on fire today! Listen to Dallers. He's right. I liked a girl a lot but once I got wind of her history I backed off. Changed my opinion of her. If I really liked her, I would have neglected her past and liked her regardless. Or, we were separated at birth and date the same type of woman 1
truth_seeker Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 Or, we were separated at birth and date the same type of woman Wouldn't surprise me either way.
Author Jjacko Posted September 14, 2013 Author Posted September 14, 2013 Totally get wot ur saying, but this guy had his wife cheat on him and leave him after their baby was only months old and made him leave his career in the military, destroying his life and sending him into depression. Every girlfriend since has really hurt him, and he is just not ready emotionally or mentally in the head. Is he trying to keep me interested for when he feels ready? I'm not waiting, but i like him - confused if he will want anything more with me down the line
Balzac Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 made him leave his career in the military Uh look up gullible 1
Author Jjacko Posted September 14, 2013 Author Posted September 14, 2013 Wots that supposed to mean - he did actually leave his career for her to try and save his marriage, but she ended up cheating on him and leaving him months after he left his career, inturn destroying his life - he's not the usual tool most guys are
Dallers Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 Wots that supposed to mean - he did actually leave his career for her to try and save his marriage, but she ended up cheating on him and leaving him months after he left his career, inturn destroying his life - he's not the usual tool most guys are But you keep sticking up for everything you know or think you know about him and claiming that he is not what "most" guys are. Ironically everyone reading this thinks he is, and we are guys. You do not really know anyone, remember that.
truth_seeker Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 The guy clearly has issues and you're stuck on him. Get away from him.
CrystalCastles Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 This guy is full of sh*t. I was in almost EXACTLY the same situation. A coworker came on very strong and acted like he liked me. He also enjoyed treating me like complete ****, calling me things like "nobody". But that was ok because he liked me, right? Oh yeah, and he'd come tell me specifically that he was seeing other girls. But that they weren't girls he was really attracted to, blah blah. And that he had problems with his exes and that he isn't planning on a relationship anytime soon. His actions towards me would fluctuate from being very affectionate (everyone in our workplace noticed) to being completely mean and harassing me. It was confusing and I thought maybe he isn't sure of an R with me and he's falling for me but he's scared. Ha! This isn't like. A guy "keeping your around and interested" isn't like. He does this because you're giving him attention and he likes it. He likes that you care. In my case, my guy liked that I'd get mad, or sad, or happy so quickly based on what he did. And that I was giving him attention. Texting him. Etc. Why do you put up with that? If a guy likes a girl, he isn't going to let anything get in the way of him pursuing her. The ex stories are crap. "I'm emotionally not ready" is crap. All crap. Move on. 2
Dallers Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 This guy is full of sh*t. I was in almost EXACTLY the same situation. A coworker came on very strong and acted like he liked me. He also enjoyed treating me like complete ****, calling me things like "nobody". But that was ok because he liked me, right? Oh yeah, and he'd come tell me specifically that he was seeing other girls. But that they weren't girls he was really attracted to, blah blah. And that he had problems with his exes and that he isn't planning on a relationship anytime soon. His actions towards me would fluctuate from being very affectionate (everyone in our workplace noticed) to being completely mean and harassing me. It was confusing and I thought maybe he isn't sure of an R with me and he's falling for me but he's scared. Ha! This isn't like. A guy "keeping your around and interested" isn't like. He does this because you're giving him attention and he likes it. He likes that you care. In my case, my guy liked that I'd get mad, or sad, or happy so quickly based on what he did. And that I was giving him attention. Texting him. Etc. Why do you put up with that? If a guy likes a girl, he isn't going to let anything get in the way of him pursuing her. The ex stories are crap. "I'm emotionally not ready" is crap. All crap. Move on. How I saw this post. Rooooorrrrraaaaaaaarghhhhhhhhhhhhhh! Move on. I concur.
CrystalCastles Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 I concur. ^LOL. Your version is better.
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