What's worse Browsing on a singles site or paying off a debt hidden from the other?

[Stressfactor]

The M and F have been on similar incomes over the past 6 years married.

The M has been looking on singles sites for some new F friends over the years at various times, the F has been spying on emails for some time. The F has old flames on her FB account.

 

In the past whenever the M has asked for figures to do a basic incoming/outgoing calculation to see where they stand the M gets Yelled at... I Pay for This and That..

 

The F has since splitting up has admitted to paying off a substantial debt amount over 6 years.

 

Is there any hope for them to get back together if they can be honest with each other?

[Philosoraptor]

Honesty and trust are clearly lacking. Both are lies and breaches of trust, and I honestly wouldn't condone either in a marriage.

[melell]

Lying = lost trust and fighting (at one point or another). Lost trust and fighting = unhealthy/unsatisfying relationship. Unhealthy relationship= lots of work to fix and doubts about the love. Lots of work and doubts= little chance of fixing.

 

Obviously, it depends a lot on how bad each things is really, and how much effort people are willing to go to the drop the bull**** and be real. I put my relationship in simple turns like above, then considered how much effort my ex would potentially be willing to put it. My conclusion was to walk away and try not to look back.