I regret breaking up with her, what do i do?

[luisch]

Hi, about 5 months ago i broke up with my gf because i was going through a lot, my mom died and i needed to take care of a lot of things and i told her, now that everything is calm i want her back but i don't know how, i told her that maybe at some point we could be together again, but i did told her to look for someone else, she has a bf now but he never pays attention to her, and i think that relation is crumbling, the thing is i want her back, i am filled with regret for breaking up with her and now i don't know what to do, do i wait? or do i tell her? and how? i'm just so confused all i know is i want to be with her again.

[Amelie1980]

Hi, about 5 months ago i broke up with my gf because i was going through a lot, my mom died and i needed to take care of a lot of things and i told her, now that everything is calm i want her back but i don't know how, i told her that maybe at some point we could be together again, but i did told her to look for someone else, she has a bf now but he never pays attention to her, and i think that relation is crumbling, the thing is i want her back, i am filled with regret for breaking up with her and now i don't know what to do, do i wait? or do i tell her? and how? i'm just so confused all i know is i want to be with her again.

 

Life is too short to have regrets. tell her you're sorry, that you miss her and explain the toll losing your mother had on you. Leave it to her then to decide.

[joe86]

Tell her! The day after my ex left me she text me saying she thinks she may of made a mistake and I told her she had to tell me if she decided that was the case.

[Mariposa10]

Tell her! The day after my ex left me she text me saying she thinks she may of made a mistake and I told her she had to tell me if she decided that was the case.

 

But were you in a relationship?

 

I don't know, OP... She's in a relationship already... I don't think it's fair to say anything, but it's up to you.

[Balzac]

The next time you're under stress, what then????

[emi]

Make up to her .

Pay x100000000000000 effort.

Then leave it to her to decide. You messed up now u gotta bear with it

[Amelie1980]

The next time you're under stress, what then????

 

Are you kidding me?!

 

HIS MOTHER DIED!!!!!

 

He wasn't under any normal stress, he went through a major bereavement, that is no ordinary circumstance.

 

I can't imagine how I would feel if my mother died and who knows what grief would do to you.

[Mariposa10]

You told her that she should look for somebody else, I have a question, did you date somebody while you guys were broken up? I'm just curious..

[hotpotato]

Slowly increase contact.

 

I dont think you should try to break them up, but if they do break up anyway, she is fair game.

[Waz]

Really sorry for your loss. Hope you're doing better OP.

 

Maybe i'll speak harsh, but can't say it other way.

 

For now, don't do absolutely nothing.

You don't have the right to bother her.

Let her alone, she already struggled i guess to get over it, maybe she is still struggling.

It's also unfair for the other guy, providing the info you gave, as i see it (if he wasn't a problem when you 2 were in a relationship). Would you like someone to do the exact thing to you? (from the point of the guy, but also from the view of the girl. If you were in her place, you already had a relationship and your ex came and put yourself in a dilemma like that, would you like it?)

 

You can't know their relationship from the inside, even if their relationship doesn't go well, it's not your business.

 

Even if you tell her now, and even if she comes back to you, in the long run, this will be used against you. You don't want that.

 

If i were you, i would leave it as it is for now. I'm sure you will find the right time to tell her, and it's sure that in the future you will talk again.

 

Good luck.