heartshaped Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 but I can't put my finger on what it is. Short background: Knight and I met in high school. Dated from then until after first year of college. I ended things. Four years later, here we are, reconciled. So we're two weeks into this "relationship" (truth be told it feels odd to call it that) and something's bothering the heck out of me to the point I've mentioned it to Knight, but when he asks what's bothering me I cannot articulate anything specific. It's like a nagging feeling in the back of my mind. I'm wondering if it's a trust issue. As much as I want to, I don't think I trust Knight very much. Not in the sense that I don't believe the things he tells me or that I don't trust him to be faithful, but it's like part of me is waiting on him to hurt me again. In the past, there was quite a bit of hurt between Knight and I especially at the end. It did not end, as it were, on a good note. Knight openly admits he doesn't trust me much either. My leaving forever changed his opinion of me. I guess I'm wondering if this all is just a matter of time. Rome wasn't built in a day as they say. Maybe in time trust will grow? Maybe I'll be able to breathe easier? Or maybe I just am overanalyzing everything and need to relax?
ForeverHopeful1 Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 Trust your gut. If something feels wrong, it is wrong. Sometimes when you have situations like these the trust is hard to come by. I know when my H broke up with me many moons ago, he really did a number on me. Today, I have no fear. He had promised to stay by my side, then he left. It took a long tome for me to SEE he wasnt going anywhere. I couldn't trust his word at that time and it was time he needed to put in before I would consider trusting him again. I believed his words the first time. I believed his actions the second. It is absolutely normal to feel this way if your past together scares you still.
tinydancer93 Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 I wouldn't expect the trust to simply repair itself over time. It's something you both need to work on. I think you should both sit down and have a good, long OPEN and HONEST talk about what you are both feeling and where you should go from there.
Author heartshaped Posted September 15, 2013 Author Posted September 15, 2013 We had a talk about it and I feel (somewhat) better. He's doing everything he can to reassure me, etc. and I believe he is genuine because of his actions, but I still feel a little hesitant to trust him seeing as how things are so new. I feel better though than I have. Thanks guys.
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