elizabeth21 Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 (edited) We broke up in April because things got stressful for him since he was 17 and I'm 18. We dated over a year and he got mad when I would get upset he had no time for me. We'd see each other once a week and barely talk. So he said what if he's a bad bf like everyone says he is and that he wasn't ready for a relationship and didn't want to keep hurting me cause he knew I was unhappy sometimes. He did nothing for me and I did so much for him. He explained the break up like crap and left me kinda confused. I couldn't tell if he liked me still but he probably didn't. I think he cared for me but things just got hard/I wasn't for him. Someone said he said I was "high maintenance". I guess being treated like a gf is high maintenance to him. And if it is, then I deserve wayyy better than that. Everyone says I deserve better and I know I do...but it hurts to know I held on for so long and got nothing out of that. He took advantage of me and he said he didn't want to anymore. He seemed to move on pretty fast too which sucks. I remember him saying he'd be as emotional as a girl if we broke up. He has an attitude towards me now and can barely say a word to me. I tried to be nice and say hi n stuff after breaking up and he would just glare and get silent... Well this girl has liked him for 2 years I found out, and we used to be tight until she started flirting with him while we dated. Then we drifted. It sucks to know that he might even date this girl after he said he didn't want a relationship until college! He sure as heck wasn't ready and couldn't handle being my bf. And he sits with her in church and that stinks cause he used to do that with me..until he got lazy in the relationship and sat outside watching it on the tv. He was always too tired for me and busy with his sports. Yet he can stay up late and talk to her and drive out to see her when he didn't for me. And they work together now so they stay out late and he would text me at like 10 saying he needed to go to sleep...It would suck if he changed for her. But who knows, the real side of him could show and he could be back to square 1 again. He may be going through the motions we did when we were friends.. :/ It's weird that I'm a little angry over this even tho I have no feelings for him and want someone else. I guess I don't like the feeling of not being right for someone/feeling used/led on. He led me to believe we'd be dating for awhile until/through college. That played a factor in the break up I think but now he's going to community college for 1 year..I am for 2 years.. She's kind of laid back like him so maybe he find someone like him...and that's great cause we both deserve to be happy. But he doesn't need to be a douche towards me and get his family to be one to me too. I regret doing so much for him...I know I'll find someone just as outgoing as me and mature enough. Someone who can actually wear the pants in the relationship. And I hate the feeling of his pitty after we broke up. I want him to know I accepted it and I don't want him thinking he's this boy that's so hard to get over. I had so many things I wish I could've said at the break up. I wish he knew he wasn't right for me either. Gosh I should've let go of him sooner. Edited September 14, 2013 by elizabeth21
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