Attention

[Squeaks]

I like attention

Hello,

 

So I worked with a girl that I became very close to. She had just gotten out of an engagement so I was hesitent to try to push passed the friendship stage....that and I really could never tell if she was flirting with me or just being nice. I ended up vacationing for a week.....she texted me every day I was gone. When I got back she was extremley excited to see me. It was at this point that I decided to just go for it....i called her and asked her out. She accepted and we ended up hitting it off. The day after the date we went out with some friends and after we had a few I asked her what that date was all about.....she responded with she wasn't ready for a relationship and sge really valued my friendship. From this point forward I bottled up my feelings for her and "put on the friend face". About two weeks after work ended I started getting texts from her.....we ended up hanging out with friends shortly after and she told me she was thinking about me. I tried to just brush it off as a "she's had to much to drink". The next weekend we hung out again and told me we should go fishing. We ended up going abd once again had a great time.....although she left my truck acting very upset. It's important to note that she had broken some pretty big promises....writing a letter of reference for the peace corp being one of them. I hung out with her but never did ask her out, think I was hesitent based on the "I value your friendship date". I left for another vacation and received a couple more texts from her. When I got back I invited her and some co-workers to a movie night....she didn't seem very enthused. I later found out she had been dating a guy for the past month. I went out with her and another co-worker and she got upset every time I left....but yet talked about giving the guy she was dating head and how clingy he was. The next week she asked me to help her move some stuff. I said "sure, but I might be in rough shape....I'll be at a wedding the previous day". I ended up cutting my night short at the reception knowing I'd have to wake up early and drive an hour to help her move stuff. I got back to my house and sent her a text asking what time I should be there. She responded with I'm actually out of town....she called shortly after and appologized abd told me she'd take ne out to lunch to appologize. We ended up going to lunch and I started off by telling her " If I can't depend on you or trust you I don't want you in my life. She felt really bad and asked me why I had shown up. I told her because we were good friends. I then told her I'd be leaving for a week to "clear my head". When I returned I sent her a text asking "if she'd gotten the furniture moved".....no response. I knew she had just moved away and assumed she was busy. The next week "after reading a relationship book" texted her and asked how everything was going in the new city.....no response. It was at this time I removed her from my phone and told myself "if she can't take 5 seconds to text me back.....why waste my time. I saw her a week later and the first thing she did was come up and hug me acting like everything was fine. Her birthday was the next weekend.....she invited me via FB knowing that I had just recently stopped using it.....I didn't see the invite until two days later. I sent an appology to her via text.....no response. At this point I just want to get over her.....really struggling though.

[loveiswar101]

Well not great at giving advise on this, but reading through here's my best shot, It seem's not long after her engagement she wanted company, male company. Your were/am that male company. I think NC is the go here as even though you have your feelings she may need to get herself sorted to where she wants to be. Why lead you on and date another. Comfort I think. Think back before you met/got closer and try and get back in that space and be yourself. Time !

[Squeaks]

I appreciate the advice. Worst part about the whole situation is she keeps texting me.....which just sucks me right back in.