dave8i4 Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 I met this girl through online dating and we went out for a date on Saturday. We had a great time together and enjoyed each others company. She texted that she really had a good time and we planned to hang out next day evening, however she said she'll let me know once she is done running some errands. Later that afternoon, she texted she is stuck and can't make it however apologized and asked if we can meet next week and go to the movies, to which i said 'yes' and told her it was ok. I asked her the next day(Monday) if she wanted to catch up a movie after work on Tuesday and she replied she working late on Tuesday and suggested if we can do it on a wednesday. I really wanted to meet her again and I agreed for Wednesday. I thought may be I am rushing a bit too much and didn't call/text entire tuesday and waited for her to confirm till late wednesday afternoon. She never got back, so i texted her(late afternoon) if we were still on for the movies tonite. She immediately replied, apologizing for not confirming earlier and that she was really busy with work and she didn't mean to ignore or be mean and confirmed the evening movie plan. An hour later, she texted that she got in trouble at work and has to stay back late! She again apologized and said she'll make it up to me. I got really frustrated however i told her it was fine and we'll fix some other day later this week or next week. I did not text/call her after that, neither did she. Since she was the one who canceled twice, should I wait for her to text me or should I ask her out again or should I just text her a casual text (not asking her out)?
TigerCub Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 I don't think you should be initiating anymore contact, if she wants to contact you and/or hang out, she'll get in touch. Sorry that it's frustrating from the start.
CherryT Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 I would wait for her to initiate contact. If she's telling the truth about work being busy (I understand how it is to work insane hours) and is interested, she will contact you. I wouldn't hold my breath for it though. I'd go on with my life and if she reappears and it's convenient for you, then reconsider seeing her again.
mario_C Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 May I suggest we consolidate all the "We had a terrific first date but now (s)he won't (return my) call(s)" threads, please? Sorry, there's just an overwhelming number of them.
deathandtaxes Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 (edited) May I suggest we consolidate all the "We had a terrific first date but now (s)he won't (return my) call(s)" threads, please? Sorry, there's just an overwhelming number of them. It's the way of the world. One side sees the date as truly being good. The other doesn't but lies about it not to hurt any feelings. Then they make excuses and eventually stop contact. Just let it go. Enjoy the date you did have and move on. Several months back I was trying to date this lady I met from Match. She actually initiated contact on the site, which is usually not the norm. Anyways, we made plans for a first date to meet up for drinks. An hour before the date a plumbing emergency comes up and she has to stay home. We reschedule for a few days later. I keep cool and don't text her the intervening few days. The day of the date she texts again to say she's been hospitalized. Wow! I think she may have been telling the truth, but she didn't offer to make any more plans. That's the last I heard of her. And you better believe I let that one go. But I think it would have made a first good date story that follows the rest of these where they stop contact. That's just the vibe I got from her. Edited September 14, 2013 by deathandtaxes
Dallers Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 Cancel once, real life issue and perfectly acceptable. Cancel twice, does not like you and either does not know how to tell you or was considering a second date just to see if she did and decided she didn't. There is never a third date in this situation. 1
mortensorchid Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 I'd just move on. She's not interested enough to see you again.
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