jacg89 Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 We've been friends for over a year, we just started making out about a month ago & thinks are kind of getting hot & heavy.. but I am holding off & making him wait.. I really like him & don't want him to think of me as a whore or something... I know that he respects me. so last night we were making out & started taking off e/o's clothes.. yes, I was awkward as I always am, and he is kissing me all over, etc.. we were still wearing underwear but that was it. he finally asks me if I have ever had sex before, and that I act like I don't know him... In reality, I was very comfortable even thou he said that I didn't look comfortable, and yes, I have had sex before, but I've only done it about 5 other times with my only ex.. so I'm not very experienced. It just makes me feel like I am failing at loving him :/ so to make things worse I started massaging him down there... I read tips on cosmo online & really had no idea what I was doing, but thought that maybe I was pleasing him? anyway, after a minute he goes "OOWW!" I wasn't doing anything crazy, at all... I was shocked! I was making sure to not hurt him and then I hurt him! haha.. but then again that was the second time that I ever did that to a guy.. a handjob? basically... I guess what I am asking for is tips here! I'm 24 years old, and I guess so far I am failing at sexual behavior with him! I definetly want to hook up with him next time we are alone... So the last thing that we need is for me to be a failure at it. help?!
crysis43 Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 gotta be clearer as to what you actually did. also promise to make it up to him, easily smooths over any hurting. might also want to tell us what happened after, as it seems silly to presume you're currently there with him posting this on your phone shushing him while waiting for a reply.
Author jacg89 Posted September 14, 2013 Author Posted September 14, 2013 gotta be clearer as to what you actually did. also promise to make it up to him, easily smooths over any hurting. might also want to tell us what happened after, as it seems silly to presume you're currently there with him posting this on your phone shushing him while waiting for a reply. hahah.. funny but this happened last night as far as what I did to him, I just grabbed it firmly, but he was still wearing his underwear (maybe that was the problem?) so I wasn't actually touching it.. and started massaging him, then I wrapped my whole hand around it.. maybe pushed it upward? I don't really remember.. haha. but I didn't suffocate it, that's for sure. soon after that, he said lets just go put on our clothes and go out to dinner, he took me out to a really nice place, like always. and at first when we were driving over there I felt a little weird, who knows if it was just me... but by the time we ordered our food we were in this really deep conversation and barely ate our dinner. I love how wherever we go out, weather its a supermarket or a restaurant somebody always comments about us saying how he has a cute girl with him, or that he's being kept busy so he doesn't need to eat anyway (that's what our waitress said yesterday haha)
bubbaganoosh Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 Don't worry about it. What will work though is if you look him in the eye and, shhh, be quiet when you say it, tell him that you don't have a great deal of experience and you never meant to hurt him and tell him that maybe you need some coaching. Good chance is he will love it and it will be forgotten. Remember though. That thing you grabbed has a lot of nerve endings. It's not a stick of pepperoni. One time when I was first married to my wife, I rolled over and was too close and squashed her boob that was closest to the mattress. she let out a real good yell and I really felt bad. I held her and told her how bad I felt and yes she forgave me, and later she would remind me of it and both of us would laugh about it.
PogoStick Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 To save you from future problems: a blowjob doesn't involve blowing.
BradJacobs Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 I definetly want to hook up with him next time we are alone... So the last thing that we need is for me to be a failure at it. help?! Hook up meaning sex? If so that means his underwear will be off, so I doubt that you're going to cause any damage. Be safe. Use condoms!
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