stormer1092 Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 Im just wondering when do you know you're truly over your ex?
J21 Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 When you see them with someone new (or the idea of it) and you don't feel hurt. 3
Nyclovin Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 When you don't give 2 chits about them or anything to do with them.
reddragon588 Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 If you're asking how to know if you're over them, you aren't over them. When you're over them, you'll just.. Know. 1
emi Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 that feeling when there is no heavy bag in your stomach when you think of them is priceless
cavalier99 Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 (edited) When i sat down with my ex and reminised, laughed, joked and looked at pictures of her with her new guy and truly was happy for her. I had a pretty good idea that i was 100 percent over her before this but that was just additional confirmation. We still chat quite a bit. Cav caution!!! It took me months and months of pure NC to get to that point and would have never even considered contacting her before i was truly over her. Edited September 13, 2013 by cavalier99 2
forgetmenot75 Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 When i sat down with my ex and reminised, laughed, joked and looked at pictures of her with her new guy and truly was happy for her. I had a pretty good idea that i was 100 percent over her before this but that was just additional confirmation. We still chat quite a bit. Cav caution!!! It took me months and months of pure NC to get to that point and would have never even considered contacting her before i was truly over her. Yeah...that is too exaggerated, no? I'd say you're over you ex when you just don't care if he looks for you or not, you don't waste time thinking on him, you're not interested in meeting him, or kissing him, you don't wonder anymore if he remembers you or not, and most important thing: you see your ex as the person they truly are, without idolizing them. 1
cavalier99 Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 Yeah...that is too exaggerated, no? I'd say you're over you ex when you just don't care if he looks for you or not, you don't waste time thinking on him, you're not interested in meeting him, or kissing him, you don't wonder anymore if he remembers you or not, and most important thing: you see your ex as the person they truly are, without idolizing them. Hmmm. Well there are different ways of being over some one. I just happen to be friendly with my ex. Ive know her for over 14 years so im perfectly happy being friendly with her. She is not idolized at all by me. Not even attracted to her anymore. Im also in a new RS. I can however see you point in other situations were the person is just plain ancient history. Ive had that happen also. Rock on! Cav
harrybrown Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 If you are thinking this much about the ex, you are not over them yet.
Author stormer1092 Posted September 13, 2013 Author Posted September 13, 2013 Ok guys I never said I was over her.... I was just wondering how you would tell ya know? My first break up so I'm learning.
shayla Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 When you see them in public and you don't care.
NoLeafClover Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 Im just wondering when do you know you're truly over your ex? When you can them and don't get any feelings attached afterwards
cavalier99 Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 Ok guys I never said I was over her.... I was just wondering how you would tell ya know? My first break up so I'm learning. Dude you wont be thinking about her harldy at all. Life moves on. You develop new interests. You become happy being single. You start seeing someone else casual or serious. It becomes like an old chapter in your life and it doesnt affect you any more. it is too distant and produces no emotion. And if you did see her youd probably be friendly and would just catch up without any strong feelings or emotions about it. 2
NoLeafClover Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 Ok guys I never said I was over her.... I was just wondering how you would tell ya know? My first break up so I'm learning. Have you ever liked a girl before or had a bad crush on someone where you had to think about them all the time.. Then months and years go by after not seeing them or talking to them. Then one day you see them again...you don't think too much about them besides the fact that you just had a crush a long time ago but that was then. You probably wouldn't even care to up there and say Hi. When you feel like that , that's when you're over someone. They've become just a memory. If you keep them in your mind constantly, that will not help you move on and forget someone. That's why No Contact is important to maintain. You can be friends later on if it's meant to be..but not right after a break up. 2
cq21 Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 Have you ever liked a girl before or had a bad crush on someone where you had to think about them all the time.. Then months and years go by after not seeing them or talking to them. Then one day you see them again...you don't think too much about them besides the fact that you just had a crush a long time ago but that was then. You probably wouldn't even care to up there and say Hi. When you feel like that , that's when you're over someone. They've become just a memory. If you keep them in your mind constantly, that will not help you move on and forget someone. That's why No Contact is important to maintain. You can be friends later on if it's meant to be..but not right after a break up. Guess I should add something since I'm experiencing the opposite of this which is very confusing as well. Been broken up for 3 years. There was NC for about 2 years. Then very minimal contact this past year. Maybe, 5 times total. No emotional ties. Didn't have a care in the world for her. I go back home on leave from the military and decide maybe we can reconcile since she started contacting me again. We get together and have a great time. Very slight reminiscing. We told each other about current and past relationships. I'm currently mingling. She's been going on dates with one guy. It didn't phase me, though. I was actually very happy for her. We hang out again. Completely platonic. However, this time I'm beginning to realize how much she has changed for the better and has become quite appealing. Now I'm sitting here thinking about her because I have newfound feelings for her. I still don't mind that she's dating. That's fine. But now I wonder if I should try and pursue her and maybe see if there's something worth getting into. In my experience, being over someone is when you get to the point of not caring. You see her, hear her, come across pictures and whatnot and you don't over think or care. You see it as a memory and go on with your life. If you find yourself holding on to any memory whether it be at work or on the drive home then there just might be something still there.
na49 Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 I guess the best answer is to see them with someone new and not feel a thing. but I think you can "move on" before you are "over them". 1
lop98 Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 Daydreaming no longer includes the ex or some situation related to being close to him, and obviously not a reconciliation, which is what daydreaming for me consisted of for months after BU. Better yet, daydreaming includes someone else.
Author stormer1092 Posted September 14, 2013 Author Posted September 14, 2013 Have you ever liked a girl before or had a bad crush on someone where you had to think about them all the time.. Then months and years go by after not seeing them or talking to them. Then one day you see them again...you don't think too much about them besides the fact that you just had a crush a long time ago but that was then. You probably wouldn't even care to up there and say Hi. When you feel like that , that's when you're over someone. They've become just a memory. If you keep them in your mind constantly, that will not help you move on and forget someone. That's why No Contact is important to maintain. You can be friends later on if it's meant to be..but not right after a break up. I'm in no contact right now and every time she pops into my head I literally say "NOPE" and then keep going on with my day.
Author stormer1092 Posted September 14, 2013 Author Posted September 14, 2013 I guess the best answer is to see them with someone new and not feel a thing. but I think you can "move on" before you are "over them". I don't really think I will ever be completely "over" her. I mean she was my first love and at a very important time in my life and we have been through allot together. More then what a couple our age should have.
keepontruckin Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 Trust me, we all eventually will get over people that we once knew. We've all had friends, family, high school girlfriends, that had come and gone... Sure, we still think about them, maybe, from time to time... But they have no bearing on our lives now... I couldn't care less about my Grade 9 girlfriend. She dumped me then, and now she must weigh close to 250 with a couple of kids she popped out on top of that... And that was 10 years ago! They become nothing, because eventually they are nothing to us, as hard as that is to portray... 1
todreaminblue Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 when they talk to you of plans for a holiday they have to do with their new partner and you feel happy for them both...its a peaceful feeling with no resentment or i wish it were me...you are happy it isnt...lol..deb 1
Author stormer1092 Posted September 14, 2013 Author Posted September 14, 2013 when they talk to you of plans for a holiday they have to do with their new partner and you feel happy for them both...its a peaceful feeling with no resentment or i wish it were me...you are happy it isnt...lol..deb Ha that will never happen.... She won't talk to me at all lol. 1
love1336x Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 Well I know i am over my exes when I don't think of them anymore. I worked with one of my exes who I was with for three years. It was tough, but I got through it. When I see him at work I feel nothing. It's amazing feeling, and it shows how my heart can let go of a person I did love so much. I mean you still love them, but you don't feel that pain. Hell, I can see my ex with another girl, and I would feel nothing!!
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