summerland Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 Hello im new here in this website i have been in pain this last time ,i was looking for sameone to talk and take advise i was in relationship with a girl for 2.5 years and the last months she become very distance and when i try to know why she keep just saying some things like distance and after i discover that was because of me ,because every time she talk about things that she want in future i don't agree with her i try to tell her that i wasn't serios about what i say and i want things like she want but she dont beleve me, and after this is what happend i told her it's better for us to broke up and she told me she want to stay in contact with me and i didn't want after a week the day before she live the country she sent me a text saying that ^^ she is sorrry and it's better for us to broke up and i understand that y dont want to stay in contact with me...^^ and after i call her and ask her maybe she need a break or somethings she said yes and the next day she left the country and we stay in no contact for 1 month until today i sent her a email saying that ^^ i understand now and i agree with the broke up ..^^ and after she sent me a email saying that all that happened is not just your fault, it's me too ... I thought too, and I've realized that I was stifling not only because of what happened between us, but for many things, it's just that I did not want me to admit ... always I'm not talking about problems .. that's why I was becoming distant, I wanted anyone in my life, I wanted to talk to any person .... I suffered a lot since my childhood for reasons that neither you nor my friends do not know, things that hurt me every time I thought about it ... and I've never wanted to talk to the people not see me as a little girl, or that have mercy on me ... i need to let go from my past because it's consumes me i need to start my life from zero i wanted to be a better person ;because I've done things in the last years, which at the time I thought, would make me happy, but the only thing I feel is regret. I want to leave this girl, I'm not proud behind me and become a better person. I need to devote myself to it myself, work on it myself, I appreciate that, like me and forget what people said about me or what others think of me ..... I want to do something for me, doing things because I want to do and because it's gonna make me happy ... For the moment I have no place for someone else, sometimes I feel that I have not even place for me ... and I lied and told me that it's going to go .. but infact was not ok .... and time that I do not work on me it will not. I'm not ready to make decisions has two, or see a future for two .. I'll have to be honest with you and with me even. you're good person, and you have someone who needs to be always for you and have the same future as you designs. because let be honest even if you said 'you're to agree to travel ... I saw the future one way and you another .... I do not want to live in France ... I would not feel at home there for me France = summer, beach, sun .. that's all, I do not see myself spending my life there... I want to travel ... I want to live in different countries ... try new things .. Maybe I take things to the light, maybe I have a bad outlook on life and the future .... but for the moment I feel that it is only how to make me happy. and i hope that you are not angry with me ,i know you don't keep contact with your ex but you mean a lot off to me and i don't want to lose you and want to stay in contact with you to how is the things with you this is the email that she sent me i hope i get same advise soon i didn't reply yet .
emi Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 she doesnt want you gone, disapear from her life, obvious. If you want to get back with her, be her friend, talk with her, stay with her from thick and thin. Start there, go slow And i think there is a high chance you guys will get back together if u has already solve your own problem like neglecting her when she talking about future etc Good luck
Author summerland Posted September 13, 2013 Author Posted September 13, 2013 Thank you emi for your answer and i have answer her email and explaine the things and that was my faut to not support her and what she see about us on futur ,and i told her if she stil interesting to be in the relationship ,im still here we could take things easy and slow ,but if you are not interesting anymore i understand and im oki with the break up but i can't stay in contact with you and im still having feeling for you and want you as my girlfriends. is it the right answer or there is something that not correct?
Author summerland Posted September 25, 2013 Author Posted September 25, 2013 Hello im new here in this website i have been in
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