how strict do you think the NC rule is? When should it be innitiated?

[aff219]

me and my gf of nearly 3 years broke up on really bad terms. long story short, she got fed up with me. "youre never coming here"

 

its a long story, basically she moved 3 hours away, wanted me to move in, i didnt because of the arguing, more i didnt move, more she got mad, more we argued, more i didnt want to move.

 

anyway, given the chance to make things right, i'll happily go, its worth it.

 

problem is, she already left. she first tried to say a 3 month break, i argued it, got mad, kinda blew up, she turned it into full on breakup. i tried to do some super romantic things to get her to come back, no go, brick wall. actually even worse, she got MAD at me and is now no longer speaking to me

 

i sent her a long appology letter, she responded with a facebook "thumbs up"...not sure how to take that.

 

anyway, should i just go no contact at this point? do i try to say something first? i cant see the benefit of us not speaking for months with her having htat mindset...

[r321148]

I can't see any advantage to pushing it. She's already annoyed that you won't leave her alone and respect her wishes.

You've apologized for your actions and she now is clear on how you feel. Don't read too much into the reaction to your apology, you know she's read it and that's the main thing...it is now up to her to accept it or not. You can't force it from here and you need to just wait until she contacts you. If she is going to come around (she may not) then you pushing her/guilt tripping her/begging her etc isn't going to help and you will just annoy her more. I'd say the only chance you have is to show her that you respect her wishes and even then it's just a small chance so you need to start moving on and accepting that this is probably over.

Sorry to be blunt. Good luck with it all

[keepontruckin]

She's probably done with you, but even if she isn't, you have to go Arthur Fonzarelli...

 

No joke.