Ran into my ex at a bar and talked to guys in front of him - too childish or rude?

[kat1012]

I ran into my ex-boyfriend at a bar when I was hanging out with my friend. He was the one that broke up with me at the beginning of august. After one month of no contact, we started talking again since I asked him if I could have my stuff back. He in the end suggested to get a drink to catch up and we did.

 

That night, after I ran into him at the bar, we did greet and hug each other. He seemed pretty excited to see me. he asked if I would like to join his table. instead I say I want to grab a drink first (since that was my goal in the first place) and left to buy a drink. Two guys at the bar started talking to me and my friend and we ended up sitting at a table with those two guys for a bit. It was like 10-12 feet away from my ex and my friend said he was looking at my direction. We got bored and I decided to leave and talk to my ex instead (he's actually a fun guy to drink with and talk to). After I got to my ex, he's like "so you are ready to join the table?" I introduced him to my friend and my friend to him. I actually wanted to stay but once he turned away to talk to his friend, my friend immediately dragged me out of the bar and basically she didn't allow me to properly say goodbye first before leaving. (She really hates him since he dumped me, and said I dun have to say goodbye) He later texted me "you disappeared" I texted him back explaining that "my friend wanted to leave instead, so I literally got dragged away. tried to say goodbye. sorry, didn't mean to be rude", which he replied with a "haha enjoy your night." The next morning I texted to see where he went last night and we caught up with each other a bit and he still sounds friendly.

 

But still, I feel a bit weird and childish I talked to other guys in front of my ex (when my friend told me he's looking at my direction), and in the end "ignored" him for the night. Is this too rude or childish?

 

I think we both had a good time catching up with each other when we first met up again after the break-up. He's actually a fun guy to talk to and drink with. I want us to stay this way, catching up and drinking with him some time. So I don't know if things will be awkward after what happened that night.

[Misfortune]

I don't think things will be awkward between you too unless your friend is around. He didn't seem to care about you talking to other guys and probably knows your friend dislikes him. He's your ex, you owe him nothing, you can do as you please. Unless you purposely set out to spite him by talking to other guys in front of him, I think it was fine. Why would he not look in your direction? You just broke up so feelings are a bit fresh and people are always curious when it's someone they're familiar with. I'm sure you would've done the same had you 2 switch places in that story.