Titania22 Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 Hey Guys, I am writing this mostly because I am feeling annoyed. I haven't been looking to date for a while now, but yesterday I guy said he wanted to take me out to the movies (through okcupid). And I thought there was no harm in it since it seemed like a genuine date invitation. So last night we talked on skype, and I thought, you know what, this actually might be a guy worth getting to know. Today he asked me if I would be free tonight. I said yes. And he invited me over to his place to watch a DVD. I said no, since I have never met him I am not going to meet him for the first time at his place. And his final offer was, I can travel to him (which turns out is 1-1.5hrs drive) and meet him in public and if he seems harmless we can go to his place to watch the DVD. I basically said no thanks, but since then I have felt really annoyed, because I thought he had genuine intentions of taking me on a proper date, but straight away downgraded it. Also he didn't seem to get the concept of it being dangerous for me to go to some strangers home, even when I asked him how he would feel if he had a daughter and we went to some strange mans home. I feel really annoyed. Is it normal for guys to downgrade the date before it has happened? Do girls actually go along with this?
emva07 Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 Is it normal for guys to downgrade the date before it has happened? Do girls actually go along with this? Desperate girls. Just like the ones that are told there will be marriage therefore act like a circus monkey to anything the guy says there on after.
Author Titania22 Posted September 13, 2013 Author Posted September 13, 2013 The guy messaged me again, saying he wasn't going to go away. So I though 'screw this, why do I even have an active okcupid account'. So I disabled the account and blocked the guy on skype. Now I don't feel annoyed anymore. Yay! 9
Sunshine87 Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 What a loser. Only a jack-hole thinks a woman would be happy to waste her time driving 1.5 hours just for the honor of spending time in his mother's basement with him watching a movie together while he paws away at her the entire time. Gag. Let me guess - loser boy probably also wanted you to pick up the snacks and drinks for your epic 'movie date' on your way to where he lives. LMAO. I can't stop laughing at this post. Spot on and witty 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 I would have told him to get fked.
TigerCub Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 I would have told him to get fked. It would be funny if he replies with "DUH! That's what I'm trying to do" Yeah - that guy is a loser. 4
Eternal Sunshine Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 It would be funny if he replies with "DUH! That's what I'm trying to do" Yeah - that guy is a loser. Lolz I guess I shouldn't use that one 1
Els Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 Hi, Titania. I think you definitely did the right thing. Dude was just trying to get an easy hookup, despite how much of a potential he looked like on skype. If that's not what you want, best to bail. 2
MidwestUSA Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 Ah, it's refreshing to see someone with self esteem recognize a loser and do the right thing! Good for you! 5
clia Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 I don't blame you for being annoyed. What a loser. Sadly, women do agree to this kind of thing. We see it all the time on this site. If women would stop agreeing to do it, I suspect men would stop asking and actually step up their game. 1
Author Titania22 Posted September 13, 2013 Author Posted September 13, 2013 (edited) Thanks everyone for the replies. It's nice to know everyone agrees with my take on this situation. I actually think of things NinjaInPajamas has told me in the past regarding men, and it heartens me in these situation to hold out for someone of high quality. Fortunately I am super happy on my own, so no rush. Edited September 13, 2013 by Titania22 addition
Imported Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 Tell him you'll be right over and that you are going to wear something sexy. And then don't show up. I want to see if IRC333 will start a new thread titled "Met new girl OLD. Invited girl to a nice movie.....she never shows up. Why?" 6
nescafe1982 Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 Tell him you'll be right over and that you are going to wear something sexy. kelso burn on Tumblr Imported, you are now my favorite poster at LS.
spiderowl Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 He's just a stupid idiot. Some are. You did the right thing not to accept his invitation.
FitChick Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 Don't ever accept a date for the same night unless someone gave him tickets at the last minute to a hit play or concert. "Gosh, I'd love to but I can't go tonight. How about the day after tomorrow?"
It's Just Me Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 Never, ever, ever accept last-minute dates from strangers. Ever. No matter how nice they are, no matter how nice they seem. It is a disrespectful thing to ask of a woman. Next time, you are busy busy busy. And you have plans! For the next four days! And if he lives that far away, he's gotta come to you. And he will, if he's really interested. But believe it or not, some girls really do drive 1.5 hours, at night, to some dickwad's home, to watch a DVD, on a moment's notice. Those are the desperate ones. Don't be that girl!
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