Spoonss Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 Ok so this girl I went out with 2 weeks ago, we are seeing eachother again tonight. If a girl wants to see you for a 2nd date does that mean she is into you or what, I am terrible at reading signs as I just got out of a 5 year relationship a few months back. Should I go for a kiss on the 2nd date? Your tips/help would be hugely appreciated.
sdraw108 Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 Ok so this girl I went out with 2 weeks ago, we are seeing eachother again tonight. If a girl wants to see you for a 2nd date does that mean she is into you or what, I am terrible at reading signs as I just got out of a 5 year relationship a few months back. Should I go for a kiss on the 2nd date? Your tips/help would be hugely appreciated. You've given no details whatsoever, but in the general case, the answer is yes (to both questions). If you want a better answer - what's the background story? How did you meet her, what were the circumstances of how the first date was arranged, what happened on the first date, how did the second date get arranged, were both explicitly considered to be "dates" or just hanging out, and has she displayed other signs of interest?
Mliu Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 Spoonss, I'm the same. Recently had my 2nd date with this lady, I'm a very shy guy and cant read signs. Usually a second date means she likes you and want to know more about you. Where are you meeting her at a 2nd date? She will gaze upon you until you look at her, if she doesn't look away, it means she likes you and that she isn't a shy person, If she's shy, she will look away as soon as you look at her. oh oh, and she tries and find ways to touch you. In my case, She moved her hand close to mine. I find this easier to kiss someone is to hug them at the end of the night and if you both stare into each other eyes, make the move!
JOYTOME Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 Usually I will agree to a second date when I'm interested in the person. When I'm not so keen, I tend to avoid second dates with said person in order not to lead said person on.
preach Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 If she knows that these are dates then you are in. Although I am sure she has the idea unless you have really come off as a friend. I would say the easiest way to gauge how someone feels with regards to you going for a kiss is babysteps! Escalate physical contact slowly, punch her arm playfully when you guys tease each other, if you guys see something weird but you don't want to say anything out loud give her hand a squeeze as if to acknowledge it in silence. Give her a hug when you guys are having a laugh and tell her she is cute. When you guys are moving into a door touch the small of her back to lead her. You will gauge where she is at very quickly, thing is to keep it light and slowly escalate, if she likes you she might show some signs back too, but her allowing it and not showing that she is uncomfortable is a sure sign. Then when the opportunity arises go in for the kiss. Be confident and tease in a joking way, read the signs, you will do great!
white Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 Sometimes women are of a type that don't, or refuse to, understand that agreeing to go out with you, when you're both single, can reasonably be interpreted a certain way. The dinner you ask them to is just dinner, like they have with other male friends. The romantic walk or activity is just fresh air and an interesting thing to do. Crazy golf, everyone loves crazy golf. Ice cream? They love ice cream give it to them they love it. And so on. Usually it's bull**** in my opinion. My sister was guilty of this. When I'd explain why these guys were frustrated, she'd say "what's wrong with going for dinner (or whatever) I'm just being friends" except that she only ever went out with single guys when she was also single and then would be faux shocked they thought it was something else later. There was no other time she would go for "friendly" nights out, alone, with single guys, it wasn't a normal thing. There were permanently guys being strung along. Do not ask me why some women do this. Still. Agreeing to do it twice is a good sign. If she just wants to be friends, at least you've got an excuse to dine out every couple weeks now.
Phantom888 Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 If she wants a 2nd date, it usually means she wants to know you better, which often means she is at least somewhat interested. Don't assume she is completely into you yet. Some girls aren't interested in the guy, but wants to give him a 2nd chance to confirm her suspicions. You should feel it via body language whether or not she is ready for a kiss. Just relax, be yourself, and let everything happen naturally. 1
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