Gagirl Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 I have discovered some odd activity on my husband's cellphone bill and want to see if anyone can shed some light on this. If not can you direct me to a technical site that might have the answer I'm looking for? For the past two years, I've noticed that he has called his work phone from his cell phone directly at his job. He places about 2-4 calls to his work phone from his cellphone every night that he is there. The call last less than a minute. This behavior is perplexing to me. Why would you call your work phone from your cell phone every night that you were at work? I thought he could be checking voice mail but, why would you call it via cell phone instead of just picking up your work phone or just check the messages via Outlook like I do? The cell phone bill does not indicate that it is a three-way call. Would it? I have watched him do this for at least two years now but, I don't want to confront him about it until I have more facts. I haven't noticed money missing from the accounts, checked his credit and didn't see any new cards, didn't find anything strange on the computer, nor see anything else odd on the phone bill. I hope some phone tech can shed some light on this for me.
2sure Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 Couldn't he just be away from his desk frequently? Screening his calls? Prefers his cell? Doesn't want the receptionist to find him?
SidLyon Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 Possibly he's not actually at work. Do you suspect cheating as you've posted on Infidelity? You said he works at night. Does he also work during the day? Are the calls only when he's "working" at night? Can you verify his whereabouts when he's making these calls.
SidLyon Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 Hmm I just checked your early posts and see he has a history of pretending to be somewhere at night but actually being with the OW. My H did this too. I'm so sorry if this is happening to you again.
SidLyon Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 My guess is he's calling to retrieve any messages left, especially by you. Try calling his work phone and leaving messages and noting the time you leave the messages and the time he calls you back. Then check his personal phone to see if the calls he's made to work are made just before he returns your calls. Also check to see if the return calls to you are made on the work or the personal phone. See if he lies about this too. 1
canuckprincess Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 I have discovered some odd activity on my husband's cellphone bill and want to see if anyone can shed some light on this. If not can you direct me to a technical site that might have the answer I'm looking for? For the past two years, I've noticed that he has called his work phone from his cell phone directly at his job. He places about 2-4 calls to his work phone from his cellphone every night that he is there. The call last less than a minute. This behavior is perplexing to me. Why would you call your work phone from your cell phone every night that you were at work? I thought he could be checking voice mail but, why would you call it via cell phone instead of just picking up your work phone or just check the messages via Outlook like I do? The cell phone bill does not indicate that it is a three-way call. Would it? I have watched him do this for at least two years now but, I don't want to confront him about it until I have more facts. I haven't noticed money missing from the accounts, checked his credit and didn't see any new cards, didn't find anything strange on the computer, nor see anything else odd on the phone bill. I hope some phone tech can shed some light on this for me. If there has been proven infidelity in the past I'm guessing he's not at work when he says he is. Chances are he's checking his messages from a different location. Stop trying to convince yourself that your imaging this when your gut is telling you something else. Always trust your gut!
2sure Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 Look up gaslighting if you haven't already. Sometimes a WS can make BS question themselves , their feelings, and not trust their own judgement. The phone could be a red flag, which clearly is why you're here asking about it. SidLyons idea was good.
2sunny Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 Does his pay represent the hours he's SUPPOSED to be working? I'm with the others - he's not at work and needs to retrieve his messages. Does he call you throughout the time he's supposedly at work? When you call his work line - does he answer it directly?
2sunny Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 I forgot to tell you that he met her on Ashley Madison and that he had been on that site for 6 months before he met her. My husband had an affair on me. I found out by reading his text messages and when he went to visit her one weekend. He told me it was a friendship that got carried away and that she pursured him. He told me she was gone and he would never have anything to do with her again. He said the affair only lasted for the amount of time that I had the phone records for. I gave him the benefit of the doubt and started working on my marriage. Today, I found out a totally different story. In February, I got sick and literary almost died. The doctor gave me the wrong diagnosis and sent me home. I should have had surgery immediately. I found out that when I was in the hospital that my husband called the OW and told her that "he was sorry for not calling or texting her all day because he was dealing with me". I also found out that the affair lasted for 14 months and that is was he that pursured her. He called her and texted all the time. I guess I kind of missed that when I looked at the phone records the first time around. It was also my understanding that they spent the night together when he was supposed to be at reserve training. They usually met once a month in different cities through the Southeast and went to football games, historic places and other places. I was told that he spoke very badly about me. He was saying that I was mean, cut him off and was constantly yelling and beratting him. Also said that my mother hated him and wouldn't help us with the kids. I am not sure what to do now that I know all this. I can't believe he would do this to me and don't understand why he did all this. I am perplexed on how to deal with an issue that has plagued our marriage for maybe 10 years. I am not sure how to deal with this issue. I have always been snubbed by most of my in-laws and I had no idea why. In October, my MIL asked my husband why we quit going to his brother's church and he said "it was because of the way the pastor and his brother's family treated me". She said it was because they believed that I was having an affair. He as well as I were shocked at this. His family and pastor have been talking about this years and also spread it around town. They had no regard for how this impacted him or our children. (Their own neices and nephews). When one SIL would see me, she would say, hey and I ran into so and so and we talked about you. She would not tell me what was said. The other SIL went around town and told whoever would listen, these rumors. When I go in with my husband for a visit, she won't even come over to the house. I don't know if it's because she can't the site of me, is worried that I will confront her or if she is actually ashamed of the lies she has spread. We have never had affairs in our marriage and I just don't understand why they hate me so much that they would do something so awful. This has caused so much stress on my family and I will definately tell my children what their aunts have said about me when they get older because they need to know the truth. I don't understand why they would go out of their way to do such mean, deceitful, destructive things to try to break-up my family. We have been doing great for the past two years, why keep this going? You seem to change the truth. You state clearly that your H had an affair - then you are angry because you state your H has never had an A and the family is gossiping about your failing marriage due to your affair. Which is it? It's difficult to believe anything when you change your story(ies).
bobwhite007 Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 You seem to change the truth. You state clearly that your H had an affair - then you are angry because you state your H has never had an A and the family is gossiping about your failing marriage due to your affair. Which is it? It's difficult to believe anything when you change your story(ies). Just like me she is confused as can be. Everytime we think we find something suspicious we talk ourselves out of it. I'm learning what's its like to be "gaslighted". We just can't believe what we see then spouse and there "friend "change things up. It must be very hard to be a cheater. 1
Author Gagirl Posted September 15, 2013 Author Posted September 15, 2013 2sunny, not to sure why you posted to my thread as your advice was stupid, baseless and useless. In the future, if don't have anything to offer then don't waste time posting. Obviously, if you have the time to do so much research, then you have too much time on your hands. You should get a hobby. On this post, I asked a simple question technical in nature. I only wanted answers pertaining to that question. Not your stupid load of ****. Sorry, your so angry at the world that you can only feel good about yourself by being rude to others who don't warrant it!!!'
Coolit Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 2sunny, not to sure why you posted to my thread as your advice was stupid, baseless and useless. In the future, if don't have anything to offer then don't waste time posting. Obviously, if you have the time to do so much research, then you have too much time on your hands. You should get a hobby. On this post, I asked a simple question technical in nature. I only wanted answers pertaining to that question. Not your stupid load of ****. Sorry, your so angry at the world that you can only feel good about yourself by being rude to others who don't warrant it!!!' 2 sunny just quoted you as she was confused by your changine facts. Most of her post was what you said not her.
Art_Critic Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 I have my voicemail at work set up to call my phone or text me when I get a voicemail, I then hit the work number, call in and check my voicemail, 1 min tops....... Sounds like he is checking his voicemail at work when he has a voicemail or just checking to see if he has one. 1
ChooseTruth Posted September 15, 2013 Posted September 15, 2013 2sunny, not to sure why you posted to my thread as your advice was stupid, baseless and useless. In the future, if don't have anything to offer then don't waste time posting. Obviously, if you have the time to do so much research, then you have too much time on your hands. You should get a hobby. On this post, I asked a simple question technical in nature. I only wanted answers pertaining to that question. Not your stupid load of ****. Sorry, your so angry at the world that you can only feel good about yourself by being rude to others who don't warrant it!!!' So these are just example cases, not real? I didn't see 2Sunny post any advice, nor did she curse or use abusive language. She was mainly asking a question, which I thought was a good one. Note there's no advice in my post either.
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