Viro12 Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/422397-break-up-letter-need-analyzing-i-don-t-know So here's my story above: I'm doing well with moving on and I know that we won't ever be back together again given the situation in the future. The only thing that prevent me from moving on is labeling my past memories. Do I label it as I fell for a person who didn't love me and used me as a placeholder for two years? Or I fell for a person who puppy loved me, and she outgrew it. I see this as a growth experience for both of us. It was sad that it ended, but hey it wasn't meant to be. At least for the two years, the happiness was real. I don't know how should I label my memories, as it will affect me on how I view my life later on. Any advice? Please be brutally honest, I rather deal with the pain now than discover years later that it was just wishful thinking.
Sparkle304 Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 Not sure why you need to label?? But if you must, it makes the most sense to remember the relationship as a positive experience. Negativity does nothing but bring you down.
Author Viro12 Posted September 13, 2013 Author Posted September 13, 2013 Not sure why you need to label?? But if you must, it makes the most sense to remember the relationship as a positive experience. Negativity does nothing but bring you down. Because labeling her as someone who didn't love me makes it hurt more. Labeling it as a growth experience makes it hurt less. But I want truth than placating myself for what it's not.
Sparkle304 Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 But you'll never know the truth! In this case, the truth is whatever you choose to believe. So you can either believe the negative and be miserable OR you can believe that she really did love you and appreciate the relationship as a positive experience. How does seeing your relationship as a negative experience benefit you?!
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