ana0pera Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 what does the term, "long-term relationship," mean to you? Like, if you were to tell someone you were looking for a LTR, what would you mean by that? I got into an interesting discussion with a friend last night about this term, and found out we define it to mean completely different things, not saying that either one of us is right. I am curious to hear what others think.
crederer Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 It means you're looking for something more than a ONS or a FWB and potentially, if they play their cards right, a life long partner. 3
Ninjainpajamas Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 For men, six months to several years, give or take. For women, the rest of their boob sagging lives. 1
MrCastle Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 For men, six months to several years, give or take.[/Quote] This. For women, the rest of their boob sagging lives. No comment
RedRobin Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 For some men (probably me) , six months to several years, give or take. For women I don't like or want, the rest of their boob sagging lives. There. Fixed it for you. 3
RedRobin Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 (edited) I'd say for some, the definition of a LTR might be as long as a week, lol. Seems like a relative description that some conveniently assign based on their inability to obtain or keep one... and then spin their relationship history later for marketing purposes for the intended audience. Best for careful shoppers to find out in advance. Ideally through a third objective party, if possible. ... but to answer the question... for me it is a minimum of a year. Anything less than that is not a LTR in my opinion. In fact, I don't even count anything less than 6 months as a 'relationship'. Although, I do get it that some people find it excruciatingly difficult to be monogamous for that long.... hence the desire to ever shorten what is considered a 'LTR' In any case, I don't make a habit of believing what most men say they are looking for until I have other evidence... by their own actions or what I know about them in my social circle. Has served me very well so far. Edited September 13, 2013 by RedRobin
Author ana0pera Posted September 13, 2013 Author Posted September 13, 2013 (edited) For men, six months to several years, give or take. For women, the rest of their boob sagging lives. it's funny because i am a woman and to me it's several months (i don't have an exact number) - several years, potentially lifelong whereas the friend i was talking to about this is a guy and he thinks LTR means lifelong, or I guess the rest of his ball sagging life Edited September 13, 2013 by ana0pera
EasyHeart Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 It depends how the term is used. If someone says they are looking for a LTR, I interpret that to mean they are looking for a relationship that might lead to marriage. Zengirl (OMG, I miss her so much!) called them "terminal relationships". But if you've been dating someone for a while or if you're talking about past relationships, it just means someone you dated for a significant period of time. For me, it's a year or more before I think of it as long-term. 1
Els Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 Zengirl (OMG, I miss her so much!) OMG me too! :( OP - combination of time and mindset, probably. Personally, I'd define it as a LTR if it has been over a year, and there was a committed as opposed to casual mindset. I did have 'LTRs' that I don't really consider to be 'really LTRs' because even though they lasted over a year, we had no real plans for the future, it was more of a 'having fun and going out on dates in college' thing.
Pyro Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 It means you're looking for something more than a ONS or a FWB and potentially, if they play their cards right, a life long partner. Said perfectly.
happydate Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 (edited) Depends what you define Long Term Relationships. What is long term? Are we talking about weeks, months or years? Are you talking about casual or committed? It's a pretty vague subject to say the least. A PUA can lead a girl for 4 to 5 years; only seeing her once a week and have just sex and both considered being in a LTR. The PUA never travels with her and never much do anything with her. The power of No Contact applied properly. Or You can have a couple who share their lives and dreams and aspirations together and live a fruitful life for a few years. Or any infinite amount of combinations. And who really cares. If a LTR makes both men and women happy then it's a LTR. If a LTR makes some men and women unhappy, then it's a Long Term pRison relationship and gosh not a moment too soon that I hear sad stories of married men and boyfriends on airplanes telling me NOT to get married and NOT to commit to a woman. Why is that? Why are they so fearful and unhappy about? Didn't TV ads say married life is great? Perhaps a dominating and bossy woman? We are talking about powerful men controlled by their women. No thanks. I'm not into this kind of LTR. Edited September 16, 2013 by happydate
MissBee Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 (edited) what does the term, "long-term relationship," mean to you? Like, if you were to tell someone you were looking for a LTR, what would you mean by that? I got into an interesting discussion with a friend last night about this term, and found out we define it to mean completely different things, not saying that either one of us is right. I am curious to hear what others think. If I say I am looking for a LTR, I am not looking for a fling or something casual where it's loosely defined and we see other people. LTR for me means, a relationship which is exclusive, and one I see lasting for a year at minimum, where we have an intention at least of a future together with possibilities like marriage/children/living together.We may break up eventually, however, point is, LTR for me means we're going into it looking for more than a fling and an actual exclusive partnership which we hope will last for a while or be permanent. Edited September 16, 2013 by MissBee
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